“Goodbye, goodbye To all the fake people in my life ,I never wanted you around me so be on your way now.You better think twice before you let people in your life because when you put down no one is around you
You got a case of the fake people….”
Have you ever been in a situation where you thought someone had your best interests at heart and was really looking out for you, only to find out that they really don’t mean the best for you at all? Have you ever had a case of the fake people?
I have and let’s be honest we have all probably had that experience and it sucks! So how to you move on from a situation like that? How do you forgive someone when you are hurt so deeply? How to do you rebuild a friendship that has ultimately been shattered? I wish I had a “ready-made” answer for you. All I can do is share with you what I have done ( and still am) doing.
In the last few years, I had a “friend” spread such a vicious lie about me that it ultimately caused a rift for a short time between another friend and I . Thankfully my true friend was able to see the truth and we mended things( she actually apologized for doubting me) but how could I look at my “friend” in the face, knowing what she did to me and forgive her? Well, I ‘ll be honest, I didn’t. I confronted said “friend” about the situation and she lied point-blank ( and is still lying) to my face. Hmm… the old me wanted to knock her out and I almost did. I put on my shoes and coat and began the trek to where she lived. Thankfully I was surrounded with people who were my voice of reason and they were able to calm me down and help me think clearly.
Now before you jump down my throat, I am a Christian, but I’m not perfect., Every so often the flesh catches up with me and I have thoughts or make decisions that are not “Christ-like”. But I’m a work in progress! Don’t judge me… Pray for me 🙂
Anyway, so I decided I was done with this “friend”. I was cutting her off in all aspects. I deleted phone numbers, no contact on social media, just cold turkey I’m done with you. Except, our families are close and it was virtually impossible to not see her. So I tried ignoring her…. but then that just got old, and just like that I was over it. I no longer wanted to be a slave to my anger. I just told myself ” Girl get over it”. A wise woman once said that you can’t always expect people to have your best interests at heart, sometimes they might burn you but you just have to love them anyway 🙂 . However this doesn;t mean you give a person the opportunity to continuously burn you. sometimes you have to love people, and love them whole-heartedly from afar… To love God is to love people I constantly have to remind myself…. ( insert Luke 6:27-28) 🙂
Now don’t get me wrong once a friendship is damaged, it is almost impossible to restore it to its original state. You can repair it, but it will never be the same; and you what…some of the best things are slightly damaged. Situations like these cause you to take stock of who is around you and really see if your “friendships” are worth fighting for. Sometimes a friendship runs it course. Some people are in your life for reason, a season or a lifetime. I’m glad I’ve had episodes that have allowed me to let go of my “seasonal” friends and put all my attention in to my “lifetimers” . Never forget who was there for you when it really mattered. Sure,the end of a friendship is a big deal. Take your time to mourn that friendship, but don’t dwell on it forever. Move on with life but savour the memories. Maybe you’ll find your way back to each other and maybe you won’t…. Just keep living and remember no matter what they’ve done to you it’s your responsibility to love them anyway. Keep smiling!!
Today im jamming on an oldie but a goodie. I put my Ipod on shuffle and had this song repeat alllllll day 🙂