Monday Motivation : That Is Who You Are…

Monday Motivation : That Is Who You Are…

Hey my lovelies!

I hope this Monday is finding you well mentally, emotionally and spiritually! What a whirlwind couple of weeks it has been for me. I had to take a break from regularly scheduled blogging and just regroup . Image result for regroup

Do you ever find that when you go through some tough times, and you finally get a break… the stupid old devil just seems to rear his head and cause things to crumble again? Well, that has  been my reality over the past few weeks, and not only me, countless friends and family members around me seem to be experiencing the same thing.

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I was perusing my Facebook feed last night and one persons status kind of stopped me in my tracks..  It simply read, ” Overwhelmed…. breathe”

So many people are going through things and the people around them don’t even know! So many people are without hope and we all know that no hope leads people down a very dangerous path. Which is why I am so grateful to know God , who provides me with an insurmountable, indescribable hope. Trust me, I’ve been through things that have shaken my faith, but never have I been without hope. I really don’t know how people who feel all hope is lost survive and bounce back from their situations.  Without the hope that God provides, I certainly don’t think I would have.

This week alone, I had 3 people, from 3 different areas of my life, reach out to me and let me know that they were praying for me… and with that, my hope was strengthened. This week showed me that God is still in the business of answering prayers.

Yesterday, the worship team sang a song by Sinach called “Way Maker” that just spoke to me so deeply. There were a few lyrics that I truly connected with in that moment

” You wipe away all tears, you mend the broken hearts, you’re the answer to it all Jesus!”
( YES HE IS! )

But the lyrics that really got me were the ones in the chorus that said,”

“Way maker
Miracle worker
Promise keeper
Light in the darkness
My God
That is who you are!”

He makes a way when there is no way!
He works miracles every single day!
There is not a promise He has made, that He has not kept!

That’s the God I serve! If he did it for me,  He can and will do it for you!

Tonight, I want to leave you with this song… but most importantly I want to leave you with this prayer:

Dear God,
Thank you for being who you are. Thank you for the gift of your son Jesus Christ. Thank you for sending Him to die on a cross for someone as lowly and unworthy as me. Tonight Father, I just come to you on behalf of the brokenhearted, the down in spirit, those who have lost all hope. Wherever they are Lord, I ask that you wrap your arms around them and let them know that you are near. Lord let  them realize that if they let go of their situations and put them in your capable hands, you will do the rest. God I ask that you send the right people to physically meet them where they are. Let them know that you will never leave them or forsake them, and even when they can’t see you working, help them to remember that you are always working on their behalf. God I’m thanking you in advance for the breakthroughs you are going to disperse all over this world to those who have put their trust and hope in YOU!  ( me included :). )

Amen!

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Keep praying for me as I continue to pray for you!

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Have a blessed Monday y’all
P.S Your girl is back!!!

xoxo

Beauty Blog: My HORRIBLE Sephora Experience…

Beauty Blog: My HORRIBLE Sephora Experience…

Disclaimer: This post is based on one personal experience I had at one Sephora store. This post is not reflective of all Sephora stores of their staff)

Hey y’all

This month I celebrated my birthday and all my makeup geeks out there know that If you have a beauty insider card from Sephora, each year you receive a birthday gift. Well naturally, I ventured to my local Sephora to receive my birthday gift. While I was there, I decided to consult with one of their beauty experts about some products I wanted to try.

Side note: when I entered the store, the lady at the door greeting customers was very friendly . I walked in expecting to have the same old Sephora experiment I have always had. Wrong!

I approached one consultant that we will call “Jill”. ( not her real name of course.) From the moment I approached her, I could see her attitude and demeanor towards me was not pleasant. Mind you, I had on my sweats, hair all in a bun and no makeup on so I guess I didn’t look like the type of customer that “should” be in there or that would be a viable customer.  I must add I am a black girl of Jamaican descent and my skin is a rich deep cocoa brown,. Jill is Caucasian,The conversation that ensued went a little like this:

Scene One: I approach Jill and for help.
Me: “Hi! I was wondering if you could help me with something?”
Jill: “Yes?” ( as she looked me up and down)
Me: ” Ok, I have noticed recently that my skin has changed drastically. I used to have combination skin and now my skin leans more to the oily side. Do you have any products that you could suggest that could combat this problem?”
Jill: “Well, what have you been using?” ( appearing not interested at all)
Me: ” I use a number of products but I’m looking for something that will take away steps from my everyday makeup routine. Simplify it.” I most recently have been using umm the Bare Minerals loose powder..”
Jill: (looks at me blankly) “Loose powder….”
Me: ” Oh here, I snapped a picture of it,.. here it is ( hands Jill the phone)
Jill : ( still looking uninterested)

Let me pause the conversation right here for a moment. At NO POINT did she offer to show me some products, ask if I had skin sensitivities or exactly which products I had tried in the past. What she did next made my blood boil….

Scene Two: The disrespect ensues…

Jill: ( sees a consultant who is black passing by) ” Adanya? Can you help this,,, ( she paused) customer here, She is looking for a product to combat oily skin. You might be better suited to discuss your guys type of skin. I just don’t know what she’s looking for ,..”

At this point my head did a little snap and a little swivel and I glared at the woman so hard I’m sure her life passed before her. ( she did flinch) I mean its okay if you are really not versed in a certain ethnic groups skin type and you call for assistance.. but to just dismiss someone like that???  Where they do that at???? lol Now it’s not what you say sometimes, its how you say it. The way she said it was in such a derogatory tone that it certainly got my attention in a negative way. What if I was a person with low self-esteem? I would be feeling pretty low right about now…

Now, anybody who knows me ( and knows me well) knows that I would have loved to cuss her out ( not swearing) really tell her about herself. But instead, I just bit my tongue and remembered the journey I’m on to “just love them anyway” 🙂

Jill: ( walks off without even a second glance back)
Adanya:” Sorry about that. ( shakes her head)  Now lets start at the beginning. What exactly are you looking for?”
End Scene

Adanya took her time and listen to all my skin concerns. She suggested a number of products that she knows firsthand have worked for others and herself. She brought me over to a makeup stand and tried a few products on me, did side by side comparisons and asked my opinion along the way! She was patient and kind and overall she turned what could have been a really bad experience and situation into a really positive one.

After Adanya finished with me, I left feeling successful and spent all my dough( well birthday gift cards 🙂 )  on every product she suggested! ( I will do a beauty blog in the future about my oily skin make up products) Now, they don’t work on commission at Sephora but I made sure to ask to speak to a manager after I made my purchase, I explained the whole ” Jill ” situation to her and how pleased I was with Adanya and how she really turned my horrible visit into a good one! She then in return comped me for one of the products I purchased and gave me a coupon for 20 percent off of my next purchase ( Look at God!! Lol)  She also told me that it was Adanya’s first day on the job independently! Bonus points for Adanya!

I really I had to write this to prove that God really can change a person. The old me would’ve caused a scene and made a real stink! I thank Him for instilling peace and grace in me to just brush nonsense like “Jill” to the side. It’s so not worth it!

The tagline scripture of this blog is Luke 6:27-28 and it reads”

27“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

So no matter how insulted I felt in that moment, I just have to love her ( and others) anyway! So many people are made to feel unpretty and not worthy by ignorant people! Please don’t let people dictate how you feel about yourself. The group TLC has a song called “Unpretty” that really touches on this topic.

You can buy your hair if it won’t grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make up
That M.A.C. can make
But if you can’t look inside you
Find out who am I too
Be in the position to make me feel
So damn unpretty
I’ll make you feel unpretty too

Never let anyone make you feel unpretty! You’re BEAUTIFUL!

xoxo

Monday Motivation: All Things Are Working For My Good…

Monday Motivation: All Things Are Working For My Good…

Hey y’all!

Really quick blog post today ( I promise I’ll give you guys a substantial one tomorrow 🙂 ) I have just had this one song on repeat for the last 3 days. I can’t explain why. Maybe it’s just to remind me that God has a plan and He’s working it out for me… or maybe someone out there needs this word… The artist is Travis Greene and the song is called ” Intentional”

The lyrics are so simple, a basic repetition of the same message:

All things are working for my good
He’s intentional, never failing ( repeat)

All things are working for my good ( repeat)

Oh oh oh…….  ( repeat)

I don’t have to worry cause its working for me
its working for me, its working for me

He’s intentional ( repeat) 
Never failing

We serve a God that not only knows our hearts desires, but created that very heart and knows what is best for it. We may not always see or understand God’s plan but let’s remember what it says in Romans 8:28:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

So stay blessed! Be at peace, hold on to hope and have a wonderful Monday! ❤

Here is the song! Please have a listen 🙂  Travis Greene is truly an underrated artist! He has a Mali music kind of vibe!

xoxo

31 Years and Counting….

31 Years and Counting….

Hey y’all

Quick blog post here! Just want to wish my awesome parents happy anniversary. 31 years ago, these two crazy kids took the plunge and tied the knot! You have truly honored the vows you took before God: For better for worse, in sickness and in health … you have had your share of trials that’s for sure. But your perseverance and faith is what has sustained you! I pray that God will continue to bless and prosper your union and give you many more happy years together! Cheers y’all!!!

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Grieving yet still Grateful….

Grieving yet still Grateful….

“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
Anne Lamott ( Goodreads.com) ( i love this quote, It puts into words exactly how I feel right now)

 I  know this blog is kind of repetitive as I did a similar blog topic last week, but its been on my heart again 😦

It’s been a crazy two weeks y’all. Losing two family members within ONE DAY of each other has probably been one of the hardest situations I have ever been through in life. But what made this situation even harder to deal with, was with the fact that I had to step into the role of “the strong one”. Each one of my parents lost a sibling, and not only a sibling, they lost their closest sibling. So naturally they are hurting. Also what makes this situation so hard, is that they don’t even really have each other to lean on right because each one is grieving the loss of their own.

So that leaves me. The most accessible child caught in the middle of two grieving parents. It’s been hard guys. I’ve been doing my best to be supportive to both parents, but it can really take a toll on you especially as you yourself are grieving. I think this past Sunday as we laid my Aunt to rest, It really hit me that she’s really gone 😦  She is the aunt that I take after the most. I get my attitude from her, my temper from her and my awesome skin from her ( thanks to all the nights of her coating me in baby lotion and Vaseline 😛 ) and to even imagine that I can’t pick up the phone and hear her cuss me again is so hard. The way that she took care of my father as a young boy( and even as an adult) always resonated with me. As a self-proclaimed “daddy’s girl” ( lol) It always warmed my heart to see their relationship, and because she loved my dad so much, that automatically made me her favorite 😛 ( sorry guys they said it at the funeral: it’s confirmed lol 🙂 ) Then there’s my uncle.. such a kind-hearted man. My mom’s number one fan and her fiercest protector growing up. My mom is shattered and that just breaks me  😦

But I am so glad that I have had an amazing support system. I can’t even stress the amount of love I have for my friends. They have truly rallied around my family and I during this time. The calls the texts,the social media check ins, the visits, the food,the laughs and cheering up has been absolutely my rock during this time. My amazing co- workers ( who are friends like family) have made it possible for me to be accessible for my family, picking up my slack at work, literally feeding me ( thanks Mina 🙂 ) and just being as supportive as can be…. words can’t even express my gratitude. My church family… man… words can’t even express how supportive they have been. Right from day one they stood by our side and filled our home with prayers, company and  groceries. No church is perfect but my church has certainly set the bar high when it comes to genuine compassion and love.Hamilton Church of God of Prophecy, you are loved.I’m forever grateful.

Now I’m not the type of person who grieves openly. I’m more of the “keep it bottled in”  kind of girl . It’s actually really hard for me to express my emotion. I guess it’s because I’m pretty tough and resilient I sometimes forget that “tough girls” need to cry sometimes too. While it’s hard for me to express my emotion, I know that it’s not healthy to keep everything bottled up. I have my “true few” who have seen me break down and have been a great support but I am so glad that I serve a God that I can come to with my grief and lay it right at His feet. If there is anyone I can be completely transparent with its God. He has been there through the darkest of times and I know He will continue to see me through.

Matthew 5:4  “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”

All I can say is that if you are grieving please reach out to someone. I understand not everyone shares the type of relationship with God that I do ( although you should try it, its honestly amazing! 🙂 ❤ )  But please talk to someone. A friend,a coach, a parent, a teacher… anyone. It’s much harder to “recover” from grief by yourself. Put your trust in someone.

Keep me in your thoughts y’all! Now that things have calmed down a tad, I’ll be right back on to my regularly scheduled blogging!!!

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xoxo

Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day!

According to dictionary.com a father is described as:

  1. a male parent.
  2. a father-in-law, stepfather, or adoptive father.
  3. any male ancestor, especially the founder of a family or line;progenitor.
  4. a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider:

As a self-proclaimed ( and well-known) “daddy’s girl” I take the utmost pride in celebrating my father. There has never been a time that I can think of, that my dad wasn’t there for me. People may say that I was spoiled because my dad gave me everything I wanted as a child. But what they fail to see is the work ethic and responsibility he instilled in me from a very young age. At 10, I got my first “job” selling candy bars with my neighbour and his wife making only 1 dollar of every chocolate I sold. When I was 13 I wanted a cell phone so bad. I begged my mom ( she quickly shot that down) and didn’t succeed. I asked my dad and he told the most important thing that has still stuck with me until this day; ” If you want something you need to find a way to get it yourself. Don’t depend on people to get or give you anything. So you know what? Instead of asking him for a phone again, I begged him for a ride every Saturday to the mall where I worked a part-time under the table job at a bookstore . I saved up the money for a phone myself and never begged my parents for anything anymore. But because I stopped asking for things, and found a way to provide for myself, my dad ( and mom) gave me the world. Thanks guys!!! ( lol)

What I really respect about my dad is that he would rather go without then see me be upset. When things were financially rough on them when I was a child, I didn’t understand it. As a young kid, I would always want money to go to the corner store, or to buy McDonald’s 😛 . I didn’t understand then that they really didn’t have it to spare. But my dad always found a way to provide.

As a woman of faith, the relationship my earthly father has fostered with me physically is comparable to the relationship I have with God my heavenly father. God always provides for me what I need. He will go the ends of the earth ( or up on a wooden cross) to ensure that my life is not in vain.Sometimes He has to give you a little nudge to motivate you to get things in order and use the gifts He has given you to succeed.

I am so blessed to be in contact with my earthly father and my heavenly father! My earthly father has shown me a physical example of a man  and God has shown me that any man who is in my life needs to be a man after His own heart.

Whether you have a relationship with your earthly father or not, always remember that there is a Father up in heaven looking out for your best interests and working on your behalf! He loves you!

Be Blessed! Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers, ( and those who play a fatherly role) may you be blessed today and forevermore!

xoxo

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Me and My Pops! ❤

Two songs I was listening to today:

“He is jealous for me
Love’s like a hurricane, and I am a tree
Bending beneath the weight of His wind and mercy
When all of a sudden,
I am unaware of these afflictions eclipsed by glory
And I realize just how beautiful you are and how great your affections are for me.

And oh
How He loves us oh
Oh how He loves us
how He loves us oh…”

“I want my unborn son to be like my daddy
I want my husband to be like my daddy
There is no one else like my daddy
And I thank you for loving me”

Know Your Worth…

Know Your Worth…

Hey guys!

Have you ever looked in the mirror and not liked what was staring back at you? Have you ever been told that you are “too black” or “a little chubby”? Have you ever been told that you weren’t good enough? Have you ever felt that you don’t matter? I know I have and had I not grown up with a strong support system around me, these words could have been extremely damaging to my self-worth.

Everybody has those days where you don’t feel good enough, where you don’t feel that you are important. Today, I want to remind you that, you matter.

Unfortunately,in our society, women ( and I’m speaking as a young black woman) are sometimes only valued by how well they can “twerk” or by how many Instagram likes they can get… this is sad. Gone are the days where a women could be revered for her intelligence. Instead we have replaced that revere with disdain. We as a society in whole, place too much emphasis on the outer person and not enough on the inner person; the part of the person that actually matters.

A thought came  to me awhile ago: If you have a hundred-dollar bill and you crumple it up, is it not still worth one hundred dollars? Of course it is! Just because it doesn’t look like its worth something, doesn’t mean that it isn’t! Don’t judge someone or something by its outward appearance. Some of the best gems are a little damaged.

I read a book ( and subsequently watched the movie) called  “The Help” and in that movie there is a scene where the help Abilene speaks to her mistresses daughter. The daughter is not your quintessential “cute”child and she is well aware of this by the way her mother treats her. Anyway, Abilene empowers the child by telling her (and getting her to repeat ) this phrase: ” You is smart, You is kind, You is important”

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As an educator, I see low self-esteem in children as young as four and that scares me. We live in a society that not even our children are safe from scrutiny and judgement. I adapted the mantra from “The Help” and created my own. Whenever I detect that the class is feeling down, I encourage them to repeat this phrase, “I am special, I am important, I am kind and I matter”. We need to start empowering people when they are young so that when they get older petty things can’t shake them!

As a Christian, one scripture that always brings comfort to me when  I find my self-worth shaky, is Psalms 139:14

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.

Amen! I take solace in the fact that He created me just the way I am and I’m okay with that! Somebody may say that I’m “too black” or “chubby” or “not good enough” but I know who made me and that He made me this way for a reason! So I’m going to love on me unconditionally and I’m going to give thanks to the one who gave me the opportunity to be me!

So don’t let anyone dull your shine! You matter! 🙂

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My Instagram Post This Morning

India Arie has a great song that is a great anthem about self-esteem. Some of the lyrics read:

I’m not the average girl from your video
And I ain’t built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally,
Because I am a queen!

Have a blessed Monday!!!

xoxo

Monday Motivation: Do What you Love!

Monday Motivation: Do What you Love!

Hey y’all ,

Busy day so here’s a quick post. I spent a lovely weekend surrounded by people I love and spent  this evening with a dear friend at the movies watching “Insurgent”. Now I sit here on my bed reflecting and this is what came to my mind. Each and every moment is precious, not one second on earth is promised. So spend time doing what you love! Spend time with those you love while they are still here. Cherish each moment and never take anything for granted! I’m heading to bed y’all! Do what you do and go with happiness! ( inside Insurgent joke 🙂 )

Before I head to bed let me share with you what I’m Jamming on tonight! (and last night and the night before that… lol I’m obsessed) Naija music is running my life right now ( naija = Nigerian)

Yemi Alade- Kissing off her album “King Of Queens”. 

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Monday Motivation: Living Through Your Situations

Monday Motivation: Living Through Your Situations

Have you ever looked at your situation and wondered,”Why me?”. I know I have especially at the start of this year.  But, this year I’ve decided and challenged myself to look at my situations with the attitude of, “Why not me??!!”  I decided to call 2015 : The year of Purity: Pure Heart, Pure Mind, and Pure Spirit.

The pure heart aspect is really the main reason I titled my blog “Just love them anyway”. People will always let you down,break your spirit, damage you emotionally and cause you to falter spiritually… if you let them! This year, I’m not going to let them 🙂 I’m going to keep my heart pure and just “love them anyway”.IMG_5222

Pure mind ties in with pure heart. When your heart is unclean, your thoughts will soon follow. There’s a quote that goes something like this: “What others think of me is none of my business.” Not everybody is going to like you, and that’s okay! Once I learned to be okay with that, life became so much easier. Not that you should be a nasty,mean-spirited person and shun and completely disregard people’s thoughts or opinions… Just stop putting so much merit into what they think! Like one of my favorite YouTube vloggers , Shameless Maya says, ” Do YOU BOO! 🙂

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Shameless Maya; Check her out on YouTube

The third part, Pure Spirit, pulls it all together. Once you have made the commitment to live with a pure heart and a pure mind, It becomes easier to draw in a spiritual aspect. Renewing my commitment with God, and striving to live a life that is pleasing to God, is again my goal this year.

Sometimes we spend so much time complaining and not enough time giving thanks! I finished a book this past week called,” The 72 Hour Hold” by Bebe Moore Campbell. ( It was a book in my last Wednesday Weekly Reads blog  and was on my list of books to read in 2015: check out those blogs here:

https://justlovethemanyway.wordpress.com/2015/02/25/wednesday-weekly-reads/

https://justlovethemanyway.wordpress.com/2015/02/03/my-2015-to-be-read-list/

Umm…why did I wait so long to read this book??? It was so insightful into the true face of mental illness and how it affects not only the ill but all those who surround them. I won’t divulge too much in this blog post,but check back on Wednesday for a full review 🙂

However there was a quote in the book that really hit me. I mean it was a real aha moment. The quote reads: ” You can’t always beat what is difficult in your life. Sometimes you have to let it win and shout Hallelujah anyhow..” Okay…. wow. Just wow…

Situations will always arise in your life. Good,Bad and Ugly. Some, you will be able to bounce back from quickly and others may take a little time. Some situations will drastically change your life and you may find yourself in a rut you just can’t seem to get out of. However, it is important to change your mindset of your situation. If you let your situation control you,you’ll never overcome it. Easier said than done! How can you not let your situation control you? This is what I find works for me:

  • Change Your Atmosphere: Don’t stay in the same place, wallowing in your sorrows. Get up out of that room, go for a walk, take a vacation (if your finances allow,) take a day trip somewhere , go to a library or a farmers market, do anything but sitting and dwelling on your problems.
  • Change your Attitude: If you keep an attitude of,”Woe is me” your life will always resonate the air of woe is you! As bad as your situation may be ( and im not discrediting anyones situation) someone out there has it worse!
  • Change Your Crew: Surround yourself with people who uplift you not drag you down. The quote, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are is true. Find a core group of people to keep your spirits up when you are at your lowest. Find a group of people who will bring out the “best you” when you don’t feel at your best.
  • Find your passion: One of the best ways to channel positive energy into your situations, is to become involved in activities that invigorate you. Write a blog :), get involved with your community, paint, draw, whatever it is that you love just do it!
  • Take care of you: If you don’t take care of yourself, you physically won’t be able to handle whatever situation comes your way. Drink lots of water, eat balanced meals, exercise, get lots of rest
  • Finally the main thing I do to get through my situation is PRAY! Talking to God always fills me with a sense of peace that no matter how bleak the situation may seem, someway somehow, things will all work out.

Some scriptures that I have been holding super close to my heart this year are:

1 Corinthians 16:13-14, (New Living Translation) Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous.Be strong. And do everything with love.

Philippians 2:14-16 (New Living Translation)

14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. 16 Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.

Sidenote: I grew up in a predominantly Jamaican pentecostal church and my children’s ministry workers forced us to learn a song derived from this verse and I actually found it on YouTube LOL! Keep in mind this is a song i heard for the first time over 20 years ago 🙂

I refuse to let my situations control me. As bad as it may be, it could be a heck of a lot worse! Instead I choose to let God take full control of my situations and let Him work them out! Have a blessed Monday guys!

This weeks song reflection is: Give Me by Kirk Franklin( feat. Mali Music)

xoxo

Que Sera Sera…

Que Sera Sera…

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be….

(My mother used to sing this song to me as a little girl)

Why don’t you….( fill in the blank) How come you don’t….(insert question here) When are you going to… ( insert yet another question)

Is it just me, or has anyone else experienced people wanting  to know ( and expect you to know) every single aspect of the direction of your life? I don’t know about anyone else,but some of the plans I had for my life have not yet come to fruition and I have no explanation why.

Someone wise once told me, If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans and that is certainly true! ( to me anyway 🙂 )

I used to get offended when people would compare my life to others. Mind you, I’m a College/University educated, strong black woman making my way in this Early Childhood Education community and I’m also thriving in ministry work. So It’s not like I’m over here struggling! But still as confident as I am in myself, it would still irritate me to no end when people would put their two cents in where it wasn’t requested or required!

Until I stopped and really thought to myself, “Why are you getting mad?” People ask questions for a number of reasons. A: They generally mean well, B: They are just nosy or C:They don’t really like you and want to know your business to be harmful. We all know groups of people know that fall into each one of these categories. Unfortunate, but true. I’ve learned to focus my energy on the people who fall in category A.  You may not necessarily want to hear what they have to say, but you can tell their intentions are not meant to be offensive or harmful, but as genuine concern and anticipation of your accomplishments. ( I have A LOT of these people around me 🙂 )

Over the years I’ve learned that I am not in control of my life. As a young Christian woman I’ve truly come to understand that God is the orchestrator of my life and no matter what anybody else thinks about my life, or the direction ( or pace) It’s progressing it, my life in the hands of the Master and whatever will be will be and I am confident that even more blessings are on the way!

So…… Live! Laugh! Love!….Enjoy because life is much too short not to!

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xoxo