Monday Motivation: Reckless Love…

Monday Motivation: Reckless Love…

adjective

Reckless:

to be reckless of danger.

characterized by or proceeding from such carelessness: reckless extravagance.

Hey guys,

So I was reminiscing with a friend the other day and they asked me, ” What was the most reckless thing you did as a child?” Automatically, my mind took me back to a crisp fall day in 1997 ( dang I’m aging myself here LOL)

I love to rollerblade, even to this day. But when I was in middle school and had to walk to a school that was a considerable distance away from my home, my mother absolutely forbade me from rollerblading to school. Being an adult now, I can understand why she encouraged me not to do it. However, being the stubborn child that I was, I went ahead and did it anyway.  The route that I chose to take to school on this particular day was out of the ordinary for me. It took me longer to get to school this way but the only friend crazy enough to join me on this great expedition, lived closer to this direction. So naturally, we met in the middle and off we went…. rollerblading down an extremely steep hill…. with oncoming traffic all around us. Not a care in the world.

Now I’m not sure  if you truly understand how steep this hill was. It was so steep that in order to stop myself from blading directly into oncoming traffic, I had to reach out and grab the stop sign pole that was to the right of me  to slow me down ( I am actually shuddering at the thought of this) After I successfully finished my ride, I looked to the left of me and BAM! My mothers good friend was stopped at the bottom of the hill I had just descended. It appeared at the time that she didn’t see me and so I thought I was in the clear!  I later learned upon getting home from school, that she did see me and had promptly called my mother at work. I was properly disciplined Jamaican style ( I’ll leave you to use your imagination lol) This experience was one of the most reckless things I did in my childhood.

Reminiscing about this experience, had me think about that word “RECKLESS”. Let’s look into it for a moment.

The word reckless as defined above means “utterly unconcerned about the consequences  of some action.

I began to look at the word reckless in correlation to our relationship with God. The song “Reckless Love” by Cory Ashbury really helped me put my thoughts together. Mind you, I absolutely HATED this song the first few times I heard it years ago because I didn’t take the time to decipher the message in the lyrics.

Here are the lyrics in particular that I want to take a look at today:

Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God
Oh, it chases me down, fights ’til I’m found, leaves the ninety-nine
I couldn’t earn it, and I don’t deserve it, still, You give Yourself away
Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God, yeah

I was speaking with another friend about how love by today’s standards are truly a gamble. You win some and you may lose some too.  But in order to really experience it you have to be willing to take that risk.

God truly took a risk on us and chose to love us recklessly, without another thought. Even  with Him being the creator and having the ability to see that we were going to hurt Him time and time again , He still CHOSE to love us recklessly! He loves us through our mess. He loves us even when we choose to walk away from Him over and over again.

There is nothing we can do to “earn” the love of God. God’s love is open and available to anyone who sets themselves in a place to receive it.

The part of the chorus that says “leaves the ninety nine,” brings me back to the Parable of the Lost Sheep, specifically the depiction detailed in Luke 15: 1-7 :

The Parable of the Lost Sheep

15 Now the tax collectors and sinners were all gathering around to hear Jesus.But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law muttered, “This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.” Then Jesus told them this parable: “Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.’ I tell you that in the same way there will be more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need to repent.

This parable brings to life an analogy of how God views us. We at some point have been that one sheep that has wandered astray, and God has dropped everything to go out and call out us and beckon to us. He rejoices when we are found and boasts about it!  Now common sense would say “Its just one! Leave it and cut your losses”.  But no, this is another example of How God’s reckless love abounds.  He honestly could have said oh well another one bites the dust, but he didn’t. He is openly distraught when one sheep (us) is missing from the flock. It feels unnatural, incomplete until the lost one is returned to the flock.

The bridge of this song has lyrics as follows:
There’s no shadow You won’t light up
Mountain You won’t climb up
Coming after me
There’s no wall You won’t kick down
Lie You won’t tear down
Coming after me

To continue to love someone who continuously  walks away from you, turns their back on you, treats you with disregard is truly a reckless and careless move.  But as the aforementioned bridge says, there is absolutely NOTHING that can keep our God from loving us without limits!  Now this doesn’t mean that God is reckless. It simply means that the depth of His love is.. without thought or caution or rhyme and reason!

God’s love to the carnal eye of man is foolish. It makes no sense. In many ways His love is as pure and innocent as the love of a child. His love loves without barriers. His love is the type of love that never gives up. His love tears down walls. His love heals trauma! His love allows you to see the bright patch in a season of dark places…  His love in a nutshell is RECKLESS and I for one am eternally grateful for God’s Reckless Love! Oh to love and BE LOVED by God. Its truly a remarkable phenomenon.

 

Be blessed today and always!
Til Next Time,
xoxo

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©justlovethemanyway2019

Style Sunday: The One With The Neon Shoes…

Style Sunday: The One With The Neon Shoes…

Hey guys,

It seems like neon green ( and neon colours in general) are making a massive resurgence this summer… and you know what? I’m not mad about it! I probably won’t take on the trend in full force but I really don’t mind a little pop of neon colour in my summer wardrobe rotation.

I did a photo shoot with a local photographer( shout out to Catherine from  pure light photography https://www.purelightphotography.info ) in Toronto’s famous Graffiti Alley. With such vivid colours displayed through the art, I kept my outfit extremely simple:

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Outfit details: 

White V-Neck Blouse: Urban Planet
Distressed Denim: Old Navy ( Curvy profile line)

Both of these pieces are very easily accessible items that can be found at most retail stores. Find the store that best suits your style and comfort. I prefer old navy jeans as they have a curvy style of denim that accommodates a sister like me who is a little bottom heavy. 🙂

Now the shoes are a piece I found on a whim the day before the shoot at Forever 21. I wanted a cute heel that could be multipurpose for me; good for work, church and even for days my back and knees won’t allow for the  4 and 5-inch heels I love :).

These 3-inch faux suede pumps were perfect for the occasion and were just the pop of colour needed to bring an otherwise very basic outfit to life!

Faux Suede Pumps

find them here

To complete this outfit I kept my jewellery simple:

Yellow fringe earrings: Forever 21
Pandora Bracelet
Nameplate Necklace

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That’s it, folks! If you are ever in the Toronto area, I highly suggest booking a shoot with Catherine. !

Have a blessed day and remember,

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xoxo
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©justlovethemanyway

 

Holiday Nail Art Inspiration…

Holiday Nail Art Inspiration…

Hey loves!

If you know me, one thing I love is fancy nail art. I go through phases where I like my neutral, plain Jane nail designs and then there are other times  where I like things a little more festive! Here are some of the nail art that has caught my eye this season, and what I chose to go with for this upcoming holiday season!

Ongles blancs
Simple with a splash of bling and sparkle.
Cute Christmas Tree Nail Art Idea
Super cute! Something I would do if I had a themed holiday event to go to.
12 Holiday Nail Designs That Are Festive AF
I absolutely love this midnight blue colour. I may try this style out with my next fill! 
See best holiday nails with star designs. Make your nails become the star at a Christmas party!
Something simple possibly for New Years Eve!
Matte Red Holiday Nails
Not a huge fan of red nails but I do like the simple gold Christmas tree accent nail.
Pretty Snowflake Holiday Nails
My inspiration for this Christmas’ holiday nails!

Finally, here’s what I chose to do : simple winter grey with some sparkle and a snowflake accent nail! Where I’ll be for Christmas this year will be grey and cold (lol) so I figure why not match the atmosphere!

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Til next time!
xoxo

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9 Effective Ways To Beat The Monday Blues…

9 Effective Ways To Beat The Monday Blues…

Hey guys!

If you’re anything like me, Monday rolls around waaaayyyyyy too fast. It’s like you race out of work on Friday evening and blink and its already Sunday night…:(  ( there really should be a day in-between Saturday and Sunday called RESTDAY 😛 )

I used to be the kind of person that would grumble all of Monday and never accomplish anything because I spent too much time lamenting about how much I loathe the day. I realized I had to change my attitude in order to change my day; Better mood= Better Outcome! Here are some of the ways I help myself have better Mondays!

Prepare from Sunday Night:
This is probably the tip that has helped me the most. Do as much prep as you can the night before. For me that entails packing my lunch/snacks for the workday. Having them prepared and ready to grab as I head out the door saves me a lot of time in the morning.
Tidy up your space . There is nothing worse than waking up to chaos. SO to avoid that, try to get your place in order as much as you can Sunday evening.
I also try to lay out( or at least pick out lol) what I’ll be wearing for the day. It’s so time consuming to stand in front of the closet and hmm and haw trying to figure it out when the morning is already so busy ( I know I know first world problems.)
I also like to pack my bag/purse. If it’s a day I need to work on my computer on my break from my full time job, I like to pack it up with the charger so its ready to go in the morning. I like to check my purse for keys, toiletries etc and have that ready as well.

Get Adequate Sleep:
This is the hardest one for me as the weekends can be super busy and I often find it hard not to nap Sunday’s after church ( y’all tell me  that Sunday after church nap isn’t the most wonderful sleep ever!)  which then leads me to be up way past an appropriate time for somebody who has to be at work at 8 am! Do yourself a favour of limited how long you “nap” in the afternoon so that you can get to bed at a decent hour.

Get up Early:
This also hard! I wake up early every single day of my life- without an alarm but….. it’s the actual physically getting up part that gets me every single time! Give yourself enough time to get things accomplished in the morning without having to rush.

Make a To Do List:
Now this goes hand in hand with Sunday Night Prep. I know lists don’t work for everybody, but as scatterbrained as I can be, lists help to keep me on track with things I need to accomplish for the day.

Eat:
I’m not really a breakfast kind of person, but I’ve had to force myself to be. It’s really important to fuel your body for the day.  I like to start my day with a cup of tea and some fresh  fruit at least.

Pray/ Write in a Gratitude Journal/Read Your Bible :
You guys are probably looking at me crazy thinking, “Who has time to do this in the morning”, but trust me when I say it has changed my Monday moods for the better. There is nothing better that putting into perspective the mere fact that you lived to see another Monday. Many people  did not.
So, to take a few minutes to give thanks and scribble a word of gratitude to the one who made it possible, I don’t think that’s too much to ask 🙂
Also, to read some of His word is not a bad idea either. Nothing like God’s word to get you centered.

Drink Water:
Stay hydrated! The more hydrated you are, the more your body will thank you- and your skin too!

Get Your Hygiene in Order:
I live by my motto, “Look good, feel good!”  So put yourself together and start your day!

Lastly….

Make Your Bed:
I know it seems trivial, but I you’re anything like me, coming home to an unmade bed, throws my whole evening off. It almost feels as if I haven’t really started the day yet!

So there you have it folks. I hope you find some tips to make sure Moaning Mondays are a thing of the past!

Have a great evening!
xoxo
©justlovethemanyway

My Autumn Reading List 2017…

My Autumn Reading List 2017…

Hey guys!

The weather is getting much cooler, which means its just about time for me to go into hibernation mode!! ( I live in Canada and winter is not a friend of mine, so I’ll be inside LOL) One of the things I love to do( especially when I’m trying to avoid going outside) is read.. like actually books! ( Do people still do that? Lol) Here are the books I’m going to try and get through this season!

(All Synopsis are copyright of Goodreads.com)

Salvage the Bones : By Jesmyn Ward

Winner of the 2011 National Book Award for Fiction A hurricane is building over the Gulf of Mexico, threatening the coastal town of Bois Sauvage, Mississippi, and Esch’s father is growing concerned. A hard drinker, largely absent, he doesn’t show concern for much else. Esch and her three brothers are stocking food, but there isn’t much to save. Lately, Esch can’t keep down what food she gets; she’s fourteen and pregnant. Her brother Skeetah is sneaking scraps for his prized pitbull’s new litter, dying one by one in the dirt. While brothers Randall and Junior try to stake their claim in a family long on child’s play and short on parenting. As the twelve days that comprise the novel’s framework yield to the final day and Hurricane Katrina, the unforgettable family at the novel’s heart–motherless children sacrificing for each other as they can, protecting and nurturing where love is scarce–pulls itself up to struggle for another day. A wrenching look at the lonesome, brutal, and restrictive realities of rural poverty, “Salvage the Bone” is muscled with poetry, revelatory, and real. ©Goodreads

Salvage the Bones

 

Sing Unburied Sing:  By Jesmyn Ward

A searing and profound Southern odyssey by National Book Award winner Jesmyn Ward.

In Jesmyn Ward’s first novel since her National Book Award winning Salvage the Bones, this singular American writer brings the archetypal road novel into rural twenty-first-century America. Drawing on Morrison and Faulkner, The Odyssey and the Old Testament, Ward gives us an epochal story, a journey through Mississippi’s past and present that is both an intimate portrait of a family and an epic tale of hope and struggle. Ward is a major American writer, multiply awarded and universally lauded, and in Sing, Unburied, Sing she is at the height of her powers.

Jojo and his toddler sister, Kayla, live with their grandparents, Mam and Pop, and the occasional presence of their drug-addicted mother, Leonie, on a farm on the Gulf Coast of Mississippi. Leonie is simultaneously tormented and comforted by visions of her dead brother, which only come to her when she’s high; Mam is dying of cancer; and quiet, steady Pop tries to run the household and teach Jojo how to be a man. When the white father of Leonie’s children is released from prison, she packs her kids and a friend into her car and sets out across the state for Parchman farm, the Mississippi State Penitentiary, on a journey rife with danger and promise.

Sing, Unburied, Sing grapples with the ugly truths at the heart of the American story and the power, and limitations, of the bonds of family. Rich with Ward’s distinctive, musical language, Sing, Unburied, Sing is a majestic new work and an essential contribution to American literature. ©Goodreads

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Behold, The Dreamers: By Imbolo Mbue

Jende Jonga, a Cameroonian immigrant living in Harlem, has come to the United States to provide a better life for himself, his wife, Neni, and their six-year-old son. In the fall of 2007, Jende can hardly believe his luck when he lands a job as a chauffeur for Clark Edwards, a senior executive at Lehman Brothers. Clark demands punctuality, discretion, and loyalty—and Jende is eager to please. Clark’s wife, Cindy, even offers Neni temporary work at the Edwardses’ summer home in the Hamptons. With these opportunities, Jende and Neni can at last gain a foothold in America and imagine a brighter future.

However, the world of great power and privilege conceals troubling secrets, and soon Jende and Neni notice cracks in their employers’ façades.

When the financial world is rocked by the collapse of Lehman Brothers, the Jongas are desperate to keep Jende’s job—even as their marriage threatens to fall apart. As all four lives are dramatically upended, Jende and Neni are forced to make an impossible choice.

Behold the Dreamers

New People: By Danzy Senna

From the bestselling author of Caucasia, a subversive and engrossing novel of race, class and manners in contemporary America.

As the twentieth century draws to a close, Maria is at the start of a life she never thought possible. She and Khalil, her college sweetheart, are planning their wedding. They are the perfect couple, “King and Queen of the Racially Nebulous Prom.” Their skin is the same shade of beige. They live together in a black bohemian enclave in Brooklyn, where Khalil is riding the wave of the first dot-com boom and Maria is plugging away at her dissertation, on the Jonestown massacre. They’ve even landed a starring role in a documentary about “new people” like them, who are blurring the old boundaries as a brave new era dawns. Everything Maria knows she should want lies before her–yet she can’t stop daydreaming about another man, a poet she barely knows. As fantasy escalates to fixation, it dredges up secrets from the past and threatens to unravel not only Maria’s perfect new life but her very persona.

Heartbreaking and darkly comic, New People is a bold and unfettered page-turner that challenges our every assumption about how we define one another, and ourselves ©Goodreads

New People

A Kind of Freedom:  By Margaret Wilkerson Sexton

Evelyn is a Creole woman who comes of age in New Orleans at the height of World War Two. Her family inhabits the upper echelon of Black society and when she falls for no-name Renard, she is forced to choose between her life of privilege and the man she loves.

In 1982, Evelyn’s daughter, Jackie, is a frazzled single mother grappling with her absent husband’s drug addiction. Just as she comes to terms with his abandoning the family, he returns, ready to resume their old life. Jackie must decide if the promise of her husband is worth the near certainty he’ll leave again.

Jackie’s son, T.C., loves the creative process of growing marijuana more than the weed itself. He finds something hypnotic about training the seedlings, testing the levels, trimming the leaves, drying the buds. He was a square before Hurricane Katrina, but the New Orleans he knew didn’t survive the storm, and in its wake he was changed too. Now, fresh out of a four-month stint for possession with the intent to distribute, he decides to start over—until an old friend convinces him to stake his new beginning on one last deal.

For Evelyn, Jim Crow is an ongoing reality, and in its wake new threats spring up to haunt her descendants. A Kind of Freedom is an urgent novel that explores the legacy of racial disparity in the South through a poignant and redemptive family history ©Goodreads

A Kind of Freedom

The final book on this list is one I can brag about because it was written by my very own cousin Michelle Collins. I’m excited to dive in and will provide you with a full review as soon as I finish! (This synopsis is courtesy of Amazon.com)

Spirit Check By: Michelle Collins

“If you’re ever going to master your emotions, the first order of business is to get out of your feelings.” From the book “Spirit Check” Your attitude, behavior and mindset define your spirit, which is the seat of your emotions. Through the lens of self examination, five bold and common emotions + character flaws are exposed that derail personal, spiritual success and growth. In Spirit Check, Michelle Collins provides a persuasive commentary on the five [jealousy, intimidation, fear pride and anger], with practical solutions for immediate implementation to transform the mind, soul and spirit. Discover how biblical principles and practical solutions can aid in your goal to become whole and spiritually healthy. Commit to a healthier more excellent way of mastering your emotions, masterfully .©Amazon

That’s the end of my list, my very ambitious list mind you seeing as I am taking 2 classes, working full time, blogging , on top of ministry obligations lol! Lunch hour reading it is!  Wish me luck!

What are you guys reading this autumn?
xoxo
©justlovethemanyway

 

 

Style Sunday: Black and Beige…

Style Sunday: Black and Beige…

Hey guys!

Really quick post today!

Forgive me for going missing! I have been battling some health issues ( flu then bronchitis and throat infection and ear infection) This winter season has been really kicking my butt so I haven’t been wearing much more than sweatpants and hoodies for the  past two weeks! So today, I still wanted to keep my outfit pretty simple ( well simple on my terms anyway lol)  Here’s what I wore :

Black Pencil Skirt: I purchased this at Forever 21 a long time ago. Simple slip on skirt, with some ribbed detailing.
Black Long Sleeve Shirt: Cotton shirt I’m pretty sure I purchased at WalMart! I just needed a long sleeve black top to go underneath another piece I was wearing.
Beige Vest: Long, beige cape style vest made up of a soft polyester blend material. This was purchased last year at a store called Sirens!

Shoes: Beige suede stiletto lace up mule that I purchased at Aldo back in the fall.
Jewellery : Nothing but my trusty old cross/baby ring!

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Make-up was kept super simple with just some eyeliner ( Maybelline Unstoppable in “Onyx”) a light dusting of shadow ( Tartelette in Bloom Palette ) Mascara ( Maybelline Push Up Drama  In “Blackest Black” ) Foundation ( Nars in the shade” Benares”)  and to finish the look off Stila liquid lipstick in the shade “Amore” ( which is like my new fav by the way! ).  No contouring, No highlight nothing fancy ( I frankly didn’t have the energy)

So that’s it for today folks! Hopefully I’ll be back to full capacity soon… and remember….
slayXoxo

 

 

 

Style Sunday: Casual Weekend Outfit…

Style Sunday: Casual Weekend Outfit…

Hey guys!

Quick style post for you this week! This weekend was a much needed relaxing weekend! I had no weddings, baby showers, bridal showers, etc….. to attend, bf out of town ( this is the last “free” weekend I have until about August) so I took full advantage of the fact that I had no obligations to do anything. I could chose to do ( or not do) anything I wanted!

I chose to spend time with two of my girlfriends. One I met for breakfast and the other for dinner. ( it seems that in my free time I like to eat LOL! I better stay busy so I can keep my figure 😛 )

For both outfits I chose to wear my favourite pair of blue distressed jeans. It was quite warm, so I decided to cuff them at the ankles. Of course, my jeans come from my favourite store Forever 21.

In the morning I paired the jeans with a leopard print top that I’ve had in my closet for years. I don’t remember where I got it from but I really love and I just can’t get rid of it.  I threw on a Red lip ( Good ol’ Ruby Woo from MAC) some gold hoops and I was ready to go.

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In the evening, I switched out the leopard for a plain olive green t-shirt from a store called Bluenotes. This shirt is a basic cotton shirt, but what I really liked about it was the slits on the side. Honestly guys, this shirt is so soft and versatile! You can dress it up or keep it casual. I bought this shirt in black, white, and gray in addition to the olive green ( hey when I find something I like, I buy multiples!)

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The shirt is quite plain, so to dress it up I added a statement necklace from ( say it with me folks….. ) Forever 21 😛  This piece caught my attention because its gold and kind of has a tribal/ hippie feel to it! I can see myself pairing this with a flower crown and a romper…. hmm ideas… : )  This is a recent purchase so you can still find it in stores and online here

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On my feet I wore an open- toe ballerina flat in a cognac shade. I purchased these from a store called ” Call It Spring) I really like these shoes but if you are thinking of purchasing them, I would get the little insoles that go on the ankle because I’ve got quite the blister on my ankle now : (  ( click here for a link to purchase)

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So that’s what I wore this weekend! I kept my slay simple : )
Happy Styling!
xoxo