Monday Motivation: You+ Jesus Is Always Enough…

Monday Motivation: You+ Jesus Is Always Enough…

Happy Monday y’all!

This weekend I attended a Sunday church service at a different church than my local church. One statement that the minister made that really resonated with me was, ” You + Jesus is always enough” ( Pastor Tony Sawler- The Peoples Church)

That statement really got me thinking. So many people ( Christians and non- believers) are living a life full of insecurities. Society has placed so many expectations on us. Are we skinny enough? Is my skin too dark? Does this group of people like me and if not, what do I have do to to get them to like me? Do you know how many  times I have heard ( in regards to myself) “She’s really pretty for a black girl..” Wait… What??? I’m one of the lucky people who was blessed with high self esteem ( don’t get me wrong I have my days ) and have always had an amazing , loving,support system of friends and family who have never caused me to doubt my importance or value. I also I have a relationship with Christ that reminds me that because of Him I am always enough! Unfortunately, not everybody is like me…It’s truly a sad state of affairs to see young people literally losing their lives because of what people think or have said about them. ( think about how many young people have taken their lives because of cyber bullying) Be careful of what you say or post about someone on social media ( evident or “subliminal”) You never know what somebody could be going through and that one statement could literally send them over the edge….. I don’t know who that was for… but being obedient to the Holy Spirit I will write…. Be mindful of your words and actions… once they are out there you can never undo damage…  anyways… I digress…

Oftentimes, we place so much merit in what others think of us, that we forget that the one person we should actually be striving to please is Jesus!  Jesus is more than enough! That’s not to say that we should just ignore the world around us and not listen to what people have to say  about us. Sometimes, criticism is constructive. It’s actually meant to help you, not tear you down. ( I do believe its not in what you say sometimes, but it’s how you say it!)  However, with that being said,  take heed when listening to people share their opinion on you. The enemy has a sneaky way of slipping in and sending discouragement and distraction masked as good intent.. ( smh)

One scripture that comes to mind whenever I am faced with a moment of feeling insecure is Psalms 139:14 and it reads, 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.

I do believe that we were created by God ( Genesis 1:27) and every good and perfect gift comes from God(James 1:17 ) I think we need to remember that we are gifts! Gifts are things to be treasured not discarded or mishandled.

Let’s take some time to remember that Jesus is more than enough! 

2 Corinthians 9:8 New Life Version (NLV) reads: 

God can give you all you need. He will give you more than enough. You will have everything you need for yourselves. And you will have enough left over to give when there is a need.

New Life Version (NLV)

You+ Jesus is what the young people ( lol I write young people as if I’m ancient 😛 )  call an OTP or One true pairing, two things that were just meant to be!

I challenge anyone who hasn’t tried life as a believer of Christ to try Him out! I mean, what do you really have to lose? Negative people? Unsolicited advice from people who don’t have your best interest at heart? Lose your insecurities and gain self- love and confidence? I think it’s worth a shot!

Jesus is more than enough for me! Because of Him, I never feel alone, unloved or unworthy! : )

I want to leave you with a song by Kari Jobe called ” Always Enough”
Be Blessed this week!!

” I will find my life in you, You’re always enough…”

Monday Motivation: I Am…

Monday Motivation: I Am…
Hey guys!
I hope this Monday is finding you in good health and good spirits! This weekend while I was taking some time to relax I decided to scroll through my Instagram feed. Sometimes I like to take a look at old photos and reminisce. I came across one post in particular and that’s what birthed today’s post.
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I grew up in a Pentecostal family. At 10 years old, I made a choice to follow Christ. At 13 years old, I received the gift of water baptism. At 15 I was filled with the Holy Spirit and from 16-21…. ( and sometimes still today!) I made poor decisions, I lived a “one foot in one foot out”lifestyle. I  I struggled with anger and temper problems. I was in no way, shape or form a representation of the God I claimed to serve.  I always felt guilty when I went astray and could never really be comfortable outside of the presence of God.
From the outside looking in, I was a lost cause! Deep down inside, I always knew who I was supposed to be, I was just having trouble staying on the straight and narrow!
Now what inspired that Instagram post many years ago was because of an incident that happened to me at my church. Who wouldn’t feel discouraged when you overhear people who are supposed to be lifting you up, plotting and betting on your demise?
That really hurt my feelings but I really thank God for wise parents who simply told me, “Well prove them wrong!”
Now that I have matured physically and spiritually I can look back at where I was and be grateful that I made it through my “rebellious” stage.  But its also forced me to remember who I used to be when dealing with youth around me. It actually really hurts my feelings when somebody sees a young person struggling and automatically counts them out and doesn’t do anything to help them! What word of wisdom did you offer then while they were struggling?
That’s not to say that you condone their poor choices. But there is a way to reprimand with love! I always tell the young people I am around, “Don’t be like me, be better than me!” There’s only so much talking you can do. The best thing you can do is live by example and never stop praying and encouraging!  You never know what someone may be struggling with and your encouraging word ( or lack thereof ) could be the catalyst for change ( or a continued walk down a dangerous path)
Like my Instagram post said, I’m super grateful for those who never gave up on me and it’s my plan to be an example to others! Regardless of how people may behave, remember to “just love them anyway”!  ❤
One song that I actually had been listening all  week prior to even going through my Instagram ( funny how God brings things together isn’t it? 🙂 )  is called ” I Am” by Kirk Franklin. The part of the chorus that really made an impact on me this week was :
I am so far from perfect
I thought life was worthless
Until you showed me who I am
Not here by mistake
No luck, only grace
I’m on my way to
Who I am
To anybody out there who feels like you let yourself, others and more importantly God down, remember that you are on your way to being who God designed you to be! You are not a mistake, you have a purpose. Don’t let your past put chains on your future!  There is a quote by Joyce Meyer I love that states : “I’m not where I need to be, but thank God i’m not where I used to be.”
I’m so far from perfect or being a “perfect Christian” but God has truly shown up in my life and helped me realize who I am because of Him! Thank you Father! 🙂
Take a listen to the song down below! I hope it blesses you as it has me!

How do you do?
I am a sinner
Born into sin and shaped in iniquity
Now I believe not who I was but still not what I shall be
You found me and gave me your name and
Things I desired have changed but
Inside you’ll see it’s still broken pieces
Deep in me reaches for you (hello)

How do you do?
I am a beggar (that means I’m)
Desperate for more
I hunger for your truth
See I am shattered
Though I may fall still you make all things new
You speak, the storm, it obeys and gone is the weight of mistakes and
Though I still feel you continue to heal, look close, and see (whoa)

I am so far from perfect
I thought life was worthless
Until you showed me who I am
Not here by mistake
No luck, only grace
I’m on my way to
Who I am (not who I was), I am (forgiven and loved)
I am (healed by your blood), I am (yes)
Thank God I am (still being changed)
I am (help me say), I am

How do you do?
I am a winner (it wasn’t easy)
I’ve lost a few and life’s knocked me to my knees
But now I am standing (hallelujah)
Not by my power, but your life inside of me (just like you, I’ve gone through)
Even through seasons and changes (no tear)
No tear has ever been wasted
Misunderstood still it worked for my good
look now and see
I am not the old me but still
(I am not the old me but still)

I am (I am) so far from perfect
I thought life was worthless
Until you showed me who I am (don’t forget you’re)
Not here by mistake (yes)
No luck, only grace
I’m on my way to
Who I am (now called your son), I am (forgiven for what I’ve done)
I am (forgiven for what I’ve done), I am (yes)
Thank God I am (sealed by your grace)
I am (still here, help me say), I am

Here and I’m closer, praise now is stronger
Stood up to fear, by faith I’m still here
Couldn’t walk away, love said not today
Times haven’t seen what God has for me
The hurt and the lies, through the pain, through the night
Cried and I cried but still I survived

I am so far from perfect
I thought life was worthless (yes God)
Until you showed me who I am (I am)
Not here by mistake
No luck, only grace
I’m on my way to
Who I am (and all of you), I am (I’m in love with you)
I am (here to worship you), I am (Jesus)
Thank God I am (ready to be closer)
I am (ready to go higher), I am

I am so far from perfect (so far)
I thought life was worthless (yes)
Until you showed me who I am (but you showed me)
Not here by mistake (thank you)
No luck, only grace (thank you)
I’m on my way to
Who I am (I’m not ashamed), I am (look, I’m not the same)
I am (I’m letting go of the pain), I am (yes Lord)
Thank God I am (more than what you see)
I am (not yet what I shall be), I am

Thank you
You didn’t give up on me while I was still in the process
Hallelujah God that you could see what I couldn’t see
Thank you


Monday Motivation: There Is A King In You…. #BlackLivesMatter

Monday Motivation: There Is A King In You…. #BlackLivesMatter

Hey y’all,

I hope your weekend was as lovely and fun-filled as mine. We finally had some beautiful hot weather and I had an opportunity to spend a weekend away ministering in song with some awesome people!  When I returned home yesterday, and was preparing to cook and meal prep for the week , one song in particular kept running through my head. ( It seems  like I always get one song in my head that inspires my monday blogs 🙂 )

The song is “There is a King in you” by Donald Lawrence.The lyrics of the song are as such:

You come from Royalty,
An aristocratic dynasty.
The goal of the enemy,
Is that you don’t know who you are.
There’s power when you speak.
Be mindful of words you release.
I know that life has challenged you,
But the King in me speaks to the King in you.
You were born to rule.
There is a king in you. [Repeat]

Is there no King in you,
Then why do you speak, speak with such defeat.
Is there no King in you,
Then why do you speak, speak with such low esteem.

I know life has challenged you,
But the King in me speaks to the king in you.
You were born to rule.
There is a King in you.

There is a King in you

( Please take a listen to this song)

This song speaks volumes! So many people ask themselves,”Am I good enough?” and doubt the fact that their existence even matters. I’m not sure who this message is for today ( I feel led to speak to young black men) but your life matters! It may seem that life has dealt you a raw deal, but sometimes the toughest battles are given to the strongest soldiers.

With all the things that happening in the African American community as of late ( Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Amadou Diallo and countless others) It may be hard to think as yourself as worthy in a society that has already deemed you less than worthy. It may cause you to lose hope, doubt yourself. But remember, despite what society may tell you, you weren’t meant to live in a jail cell and you weren’t meant to be shot down in the street for walking home with some skittles. However, you also weren’t made to be a menace to society either. You were born to rule! You were born to be providers. You were born with a purpose.

Ask yourself, how does a king carry himself?. What is the role of a king? A king rules over a nation. He sets the precedence of how society should be governed.He keeps himself well put together, he keeps company with those who have the same mindset and behavior as him.

Young men stand up and stand strong! Make and impact on society that will make people stand up and take notice of your good works and not only mourn and protest about you after you are gone. Take control of your fate. Make good choices. Choose your company wisely. Honor your parents. Be an example for younger men to follow. Set no limits to your achievements. Get connected to something!  Stay connected to the source! When you are disconnected from the source (God ) you tend to lose sight of how valuable you really are! You are as valuable as the creator who made you! You are valuable BECAUSE He made you!   Anything created by the  KING of Kings must be worth something!!!

Jeremiah 1:5 reads:

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew[a] you,  before you were born I set you apart,  I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”

Think about how you would behave if a King were in your presence. How would you treat Him? That’s exactly the way you should carry yourselves, so that people will treat you as if you were royalty!

Young men…. “You were born to rule! There is a KING in you”


Dedicated to the memory of all the young black men ( and women) who were unfairly and unjustly robbed of their ability to live up to their kingly ( and queenly) titles. #Blacklivesmatter 
#TrayvonMartin #MikeBrown #AmadouDiallo  #KimaniGray #SeanBell #OscarGrant #EricGarner #SandraBland and countless others…. Rest in Peace….

Monday Motivation: Spring Cleaning… Your Closet and Your Life!!

Monday Motivation: Spring Cleaning… Your Closet and Your Life!!
Procrastination is the root of all evil LOL

So…. there is something that I learned about myself this weekend… I….am…. a…..HOARDER! I don’t get rid of anything,at any point.. EVER. This past weekend I decided that I was going to “spring clean” my closets and get ready for the approaching spring . Although today was -10 degrees Celsius ( or 14 degrees Fahrenheit) I had a pretty free weekend and wanted to tackle it.

I set off with every intention of just reorganizing and re-arranging my closets ( I have 2 lol) and making them neater, however my cousin ( Shout out to PL) had other intentions! She was determined to make me make hard decisions and clear out the clutter. To make a long story short, my closets are now lighter and by lighter I mean 26 pairs of pants ( yes 26) and FIVE GARBAGE BAGS FULL lighter 😦 .

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You would think this task would be easy,but it was actually very difficult for me. I mean let me be totally honest, I had some clothes in there from high school ( RIP purple sweater lol) and clothes so old that they have been in and out of fashion twice( lol) Why did I find it so hard to let them go?

I’ve realized that I haven’t done a proper spring clean in years and that my closet was a pretty clear representation of my life over the past few years full; of beautiful things yet cluttered and busy and unclear. In the past five years I’ve gone through so many life changes. As you get older, and schedules become busier,it becomes easier to push things aside and use the quintessential quote, ” I’ll get to that later” ( procrastination is the devil lol) But what if tomorrow never comes? Why put off until tomorrow what you can accomplish today!

Spring cleaning to me is not only the physical “clean your closet” cleaning, but it also refers to your inner self! Let’s go through some tips that have helped me inner and outer spring clean. Let’s start with the easier of the two: the outer.

How to Spring Clean outwardly:

  • Set aside uninterrupted time
  • Have a clear  goal of what you want to accomplish ( what is it that you want to get rid of/organize?)
  • What are you going to do with the stuff once have purged it? Are you going to donate it? Have a garage sale? Give it them to friends and family?
  • Make sure that once you have decided what you are going to keep, start anew  by putting things in order, neatly and with purpose!
  • Put a plan in motion to ensure that things ever get back to the cluttered state that they were  before ( get proper storage, label things etc…)

How to Spring Clean inwardly:

Everything done outwardly is a direct reflection of what is happening inwardly so take some time to reflect.

  • Clear out negativity: take time to purge your mind and life of all things that hinder positive energy. That includes people. No I don’t mean that stupid  ( yes stupid) quote people put on Facebook ( mind you I have been guilty of this in my early Facebook days..) ” If you’re reading this you’ve made the cut” Ugh… instead of putting this meaningless quote on social media, why not take the time to really take stock of who you are surrounding yourself with and make sure they are people who will uplift you and keep your life light!
  • Reflect,Refocus and Revisit : Reflect on where your life is. Refocus on your goals and Revisit your plan to achieve your goals
  • Declutter your life. Make time for the things and people you love. That may mean cutting back on some of your commitments, changing up your routines and not allowing yourself to get burnt out. Take time out for you! (Yes JM this point is for you! 🙂  )

There is one more area of life that I like to “spring clean”, and that is my spiritual life. Sometimes as Christians we allow our life to become cluttered  with things that distract us from a relationship with Christ. Here are steps I take to help me out in this area

  • Set aside CLEAR time to build your relationship. Set an alarm to serve as a physical reminder of what you need to accomplish ( ie: bible study, prayer,service/ministry)
  • Put aside things that hinder you from doing so ( I.e. watch less TV… less idle activity…)
  • Find your inner peace. Let go of anything ( or anyone) what causes your mind to wander from and/or inhibit your spiritual goals
  • Defeat that evil guise called PROCRASTINATION!!!!!! Like Nike says “Just do It!”

Spring cleaning sometimes causes you to reflect deeply on who you are as a person and as I was cleaning this weekend only one song kept resounding in my spirit. It’s called ” I Know who I Am” By Sinach!  The lyrics read:( paraphrased)

“I Know Who I Am”

We are a chosen generation
Called forth to show His excellence
All I require for life, God has given me
And I know who I am

I know who God says I am
What He says I am
Where He says I’m at
I know who I am

I’m walking in power,
I’m walking miracles
I live a life of favor,
‘Cause I know who I am

Take a look at me, I’m a wonder
It doesn’t matter what you see now
Can you see His glory?
‘Cause I know who I am

These are the steps I have been taking throughout my spring cleaning season! What are you Spring Cleaning this year?



Wednesday Weekly Reads: More Like What I Watched… :)

Wednesday Weekly Reads: More Like What I Watched… :)

Okay, I am well aware that it is Thursday( sorry for the delay),but the likelihood of me getting up out of my bed yesterday evening to blog was zero percent! I’m still over here under the weather and with the constant change in weather its been making my migraines go into to overdrive, which has made it difficult to focus on much of anything!

I did however manage to get through “The Pearl That Broke Its Shell”  by Nadia Hashimi and was very pleased! This was another fantastic read! This book really brings to light the battle that women in the Eastern Hemisphere have to deal with. Many of their social freedoms are non-existent.The fact that families who are not “blessed” with a son in their family are viewed as “lesser than” worthy. The right to vote, the right to choose who to love, the right to education, the right to an opinion all deemed as not important freedoms for a woman to possess.This book uses two different protagonists ( Shekiba and Rahima) to show the fight that women have fought and are still fighting for change. Again,a great read! 4.5 out of 5 stars!

4.5 out of 5 stars…

Next, I am currently finishing up “Jesus Is” by Judah Smith! I really like Judah’s writing style. I enjoy the fact that he brings the gospel to the pages in a way that is relatable to those who are just getting started on their spiritual walk, those who are well grounded in their faith are those in-between! His witty banter makes this a quick and enjoyable read! I hope to finish this book by Sunday.jesus-is-find-a-new-way-to-be-human

Okay, that’s all I read this week. One,because of my migraines and two, because Netflix has taken over my life! LOL.:) This week I watched a number of things on Netflix.

  • The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt: A Netflix original series! Such a funny show! I watched the entire season ( hangs head in shame lol)

The series follows 29-year old Kimmy Schmidt as she adjusts to life in New York City after her rescue from an Indiana doomsday cult. The pilot opens with her rescue from the cult’s underground bunker, where Kimmy and three other women were held by the Reverend for fifteen years. ( This series stars Ellie Kemper ( The Office,Bridesmaids,21 Jump Street) and is written and produced by Tina Fey(hilarious) and Robert Carlock. If you are looking for a good laugh check out this gem!kimmy

  • I also watched “It’s a Girl” a documentary by Evan Grae Davis: This documentary targets the cultural traditions that support female “gendercide” and violence toward women in India and China. This documentary really shed light on the plight people in countries like China face with their “One Child” law and in India where female children are viewed as a burden and women are encouraged to abort them during gestation or kill or abandon them if born. So sad. A real insightful documentary. flyer-11inx17in-h-front
  • Then i watched old episodes of “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air”, “Grey’s Anatomy” and probably every single vlogger on YouTube 🙂

This week I Plan to get back on the reading train, but the fact that I just found “A Different World” on Netflix may prove to be a detriment to my reading goals! I purchased a few books this week.

I picked up “Life Is” by Judah Smith which is a follow-up to the book I’m currently reading ( Jesus Is) I’m super excited to read this one. Amazon describes this book as follows :

Judah Smith believes Jesus shows us how to live life to the fullest. In this follow-up to his New York Times and USA Today bestseller Jesus Is ____, Judah completes the new sentence again and again, revealing how 

·      Life is to be loved and to love.

·      Life is to trust God in every moment.

·      Life is to be at peace with God and yourself.

·      Life is to enjoy God.

Judah writes as a friend, welcoming new believers, lifelong followers of Jesus, and even the merely curious. He shows us the love of God that defies human logic and the life that God intends for us to have in the here and now. With excitement and humor, Judah looks at the stories in the Bible from his unique angle and shows how life is all about loving God and loving others.

I also purchased ” Finding Me: A Decade of Darkness, A Life Reclaimed: A Memoir of the Cleveland Kidnappings. Amazon describes this book as follows:

Michelle was a young single mother when she was kidnapped by a local school bus driver named Ariel Castro. For more than a decade afterward, she endured unimaginable torture at the hand of her abductor. In 2003 Amanda Berry joined her in captivity, followed by Gina DeJesus in 2004. Their escape on May 6, 2013, made headlines around the world. 
Barely out of her own tumultuous childhood, Michelle was estranged from her family and fighting for custody of her young son when she disappeared. Local police believed she had run away, so they removed her from the missing persons lists fifteen months after she vanished. Castro tormented her with these facts, reminding her that no one was looking for her, that the outside world had forgotten her. But Michelle would not be broken.
In Finding Me, Michelle will reveal the heartbreaking details of her story, including the thoughts and prayers that helped her find courage to endure her unimaginable circumstances and now build a life worth living. By sharing both her past and her efforts to create a future, Michelle becomes a voice for the voiceless and a powerful symbol of hope for the thousands of children and young adults who go missing every year   (

Lastly, I purchased “Keep Quiet” by Lisa Scottoline. I enjoyed some of her previous novels and this one was on sale for 40% off so i figured why not. This appears to be a mystery novel. I don’t really know anything about this story. I’m just banking on the fact that Lisa is a great author and I’ll probably enjoy anything she puts out!


This week I want to finish “Jesus Is” and perhaps read “Finding Me“. Those are my very realistic goals for this week! 🙂 Happy reading ya’ll! xoxo

Monday Motivation: Just Let It Go Already!!

Monday Motivation: Just Let It Go Already!!

“Let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore /Let it go, let it go turn away and  slam the door!/ I don’t care what they’re going to say/ Let the storm rage on, The cold never bothered me anyway….”

As an Early Childhood Educator, Queen Elsa and the other members of her Frozen team seem to have taken over my life. I mean I can’t take one step into my classroom before someone is asking, “Can you play Let it Go?”

Ugh, so I oblige and put on “Let it Go” and even unknowingly sing along with the lyrics in perfect order and with correct tempo and  cadence. ( All my musicians out there will understand the importance of this! :P)  Until today, I actually took a time out and googled the lyrics-and they actually are pretty deep!

Have you ever had a situation that just won’t go away because YOU just won’t let it? Well I know I have. I used to be the type of person to dwell on it and allow it to infiltrate my thoughts and at times even my actions. Although that may be the most natural reaction( I mean we are human and are innately programmed to react/attack) It’s not the healthiest choice, physically or mentally.


Some situations you just can’t control. For example, in your life you may encounter a person who doesn’t like ( and may never like you ) for whatever the reason may be. In situations like this, take some time out to check yourself. Ask yourself these questions: Was it something I said/did?, Did I add fuel to the fire?, What can I do to rectify this situation?  If you find that you’re not in the wrong ( and I mean you’ve earnestly looked deep within yourself and have proven this to be true) then I’m sad to say.. there’s not much you can do!

So, how to you deal with a situation like this? Old me would have told you to make a big deal about it, probe everybody you can probe to find out why this person doesn’t like you and maybe even be mean-spirited and rude towards that person ; all of which I have done I mean old me and even sometimes me right now( don’t judge me I’m a work in progress and my what a progress I’ve made :)) can walk into a room, and pretend that you don’t exist and feel no way about. However, I would feel some type of way, when someone would comment about my behavior to my face or  behind my back. Guys let me tell you, I’ve had some situations where my homegirls have even said,” I don’t know how you put up with that”. I think that’s all been a part of my journey though. Learning how to love people whether they like me or not. Trust me, it’s easier said than done. You have to mentally and spiritually prepare yourself to take the negativity that may be continuously spewed your way. It’s actually physically draining too and so not worth it, to battle negativity all the time! I’ve really had to literally learn to “let it go”. You never know what kind of insecurities someone may be harboring within themselves. So instead of feeding into their negative behavior, love on them a little harder. Even go out of your way to show love, even if you know it won’t be reciprocated.

One thing that has truly helped me on this journey is my faith. As a Christian it is important to me to no longer let trivial things take precedence in my life. One scripture that has helped me during this process is Matthew 5:44 which reads:

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” 

Okay, if that doesn’t make it plain and clear and simple then I don’t know what else  to say. Yes I know, this is easier said than done. However, here is one motto I reflect on when I’m struggling to do this; it simply says “Let Go and Let God” .

What does it mean to ” Let Go and Let God?” Well let’s break it down into two parts:

  1. To “Let Go” means simply to let go or get rid of anything that is physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually dragging you down or hindering your stability( people,living situations,work ,conflict, family struggles etc..)That means earnestly seeking God to help you do so. If you just go through the motions of “letting go” and never actually “let go” you’re wasting your time because your struggle will always win. Letting go means allowing yourself to heal from being hurt( this also goes hand in hand with “Let God”) There’s a quote that says, “Hurt people, hurt people..” ( meaning if you are hurting, ultimately you will hurt others.If you don’t take care of your hurting self, you will be of no use to yourself or anyone.
  2. To “Let God” means to let God take control of the situation. Really taking the self out of it and understanding that there is someone greater than you that can turn any situation around for your good. In plain and simple terms, stop meddling in God’s process. Just do your part by being obedient. We may not always understand the process or see what the outcome may be, but it’s our job to utilize our “mustard seed” faith and let the master do His work!

    Psalm 55:22 New Living Translation (NLT) Give your burdens to the Lord and he will take care of you.He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

Letting go of fear, anger and resentment, is probably the hardest thing you will ever have to do , but for the weight that will be lifted off your shoulders, it is certainly worth a shot! I mean what do you have to lose ( other than your sanity, health and peace of mind LOL) Let it Go and “JUST LOVE THEM ANYWAY!!! 😉

I couldn’t seem to fall asleep
there was so much on my mind
searching for that peace
for the peace i could not find
so then i kneel down to pray
praying help me please
then he said you don’t have to cry
cause i’ll supply your needs

as soon as I stopped worrying, worrying how the story ends, i let go and let god, let god have his way
that’s when things start happen
i stopped looking at things back then, that when i let go and let god have his way…

So much goin on, sometimes i cant find way and often times i struggle, struggle from day to day i had to realize it not my battle it’s not my battle to fight i had to know if i put it in your hands that everything will be alright

Let Go and Let God!


Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…

Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…


“very remarkable; extraordinary”

This week has been an extremely tiring week. So here it is, Saturday afternoon ,I’ve poured myself a glass of wine, popped some popcorn and have cancelled all plans for this evening! This social butterfly is clipping her wings for the night.

As I sit here in a total relaxed state of mind, my mind ran on a poem by the great Maya Angelou ( 1928-2014) “Phenomenal Woman”. It reads:

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair, 
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I think this is a poem that all young women( especially women of colour) should read and let resonate within their souls.
Even the most confident of people have days when they look in the mirror and they don’t like what they see. Or don’t think they are good enough to match up to society’s standards. Let’s be honest,speaking as a woman of colour, the media doesn’t always paint us in a great light or give us the best role models to look up to ( i.e: the fist fighting, profanity laden,promiscuous  women of shows like “Basketball Wives” or “Bad Girls Club”.)
Unfortunately, role models like this seem to be the norm these days as opposed to great women like Dr Maya Angelou. Women are striving to “get money” and “land the richest baller” instead of getting an education and becoming a woman of formidable character.
But why is that? Why is it that some of us women choose to be validated by society, instead of inherently knowing that we are good enough. I too have struggled with this. I used to ( and still do at times) find it hard to accept that I’m good enough or that I’m worthy of my accolades or even worthy of love. Whenever something good happens, it’s like I’m waiting for the shoe to drop and all of it to be taken away because I don’t feel like I’m deserving of it.
Does anybody else find it hard to receive compliments? It’s not that I don’t appreciate them… It’s almost that I’m embarrassed to accept them. Again, why is that?
When i struggle with that concept I am inclined to re-read Psalms 139 specifically verses 13-14 which read:(
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
I have to delight in the fact before I existed God had a plan for me. Little old me!  We often place of self-worth on the premise of what society thinks of us instead of looking at the bigger picture. God gave up his one and only child on a cross to die to save humanity. If that isn’t a reminder of how treasured we are then I don’t know what is!
Even on my lowest of days I have to give thanks simply because of that.
I’m reminded of a quote from the movie “The Help”  that simply states, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important”. I even encourage the kids in my class to wrap their arms around themselves and repeat this as often as they can! ( I do it too!)
Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and remind yourself You is kind. You is smart. You is important…. Phenomenal Woman… That’s You!! ❤
Shout out to all the phenomenal women in my life! Love you dearly!
This weeks song reflection:

Monday Motivation: Living Through Your Situations

Monday Motivation: Living Through Your Situations

Have you ever looked at your situation and wondered,”Why me?”. I know I have especially at the start of this year.  But, this year I’ve decided and challenged myself to look at my situations with the attitude of, “Why not me??!!”  I decided to call 2015 : The year of Purity: Pure Heart, Pure Mind, and Pure Spirit.

The pure heart aspect is really the main reason I titled my blog “Just love them anyway”. People will always let you down,break your spirit, damage you emotionally and cause you to falter spiritually… if you let them! This year, I’m not going to let them 🙂 I’m going to keep my heart pure and just “love them anyway”.IMG_5222

Pure mind ties in with pure heart. When your heart is unclean, your thoughts will soon follow. There’s a quote that goes something like this: “What others think of me is none of my business.” Not everybody is going to like you, and that’s okay! Once I learned to be okay with that, life became so much easier. Not that you should be a nasty,mean-spirited person and shun and completely disregard people’s thoughts or opinions… Just stop putting so much merit into what they think! Like one of my favorite YouTube vloggers , Shameless Maya says, ” Do YOU BOO! 🙂

Shameless Maya; Check her out on YouTube

The third part, Pure Spirit, pulls it all together. Once you have made the commitment to live with a pure heart and a pure mind, It becomes easier to draw in a spiritual aspect. Renewing my commitment with God, and striving to live a life that is pleasing to God, is again my goal this year.

Sometimes we spend so much time complaining and not enough time giving thanks! I finished a book this past week called,” The 72 Hour Hold” by Bebe Moore Campbell. ( It was a book in my last Wednesday Weekly Reads blog  and was on my list of books to read in 2015: check out those blogs here:

Umm…why did I wait so long to read this book??? It was so insightful into the true face of mental illness and how it affects not only the ill but all those who surround them. I won’t divulge too much in this blog post,but check back on Wednesday for a full review 🙂

However there was a quote in the book that really hit me. I mean it was a real aha moment. The quote reads: ” You can’t always beat what is difficult in your life. Sometimes you have to let it win and shout Hallelujah anyhow..” Okay…. wow. Just wow…

Situations will always arise in your life. Good,Bad and Ugly. Some, you will be able to bounce back from quickly and others may take a little time. Some situations will drastically change your life and you may find yourself in a rut you just can’t seem to get out of. However, it is important to change your mindset of your situation. If you let your situation control you,you’ll never overcome it. Easier said than done! How can you not let your situation control you? This is what I find works for me:

  • Change Your Atmosphere: Don’t stay in the same place, wallowing in your sorrows. Get up out of that room, go for a walk, take a vacation (if your finances allow,) take a day trip somewhere , go to a library or a farmers market, do anything but sitting and dwelling on your problems.
  • Change your Attitude: If you keep an attitude of,”Woe is me” your life will always resonate the air of woe is you! As bad as your situation may be ( and im not discrediting anyones situation) someone out there has it worse!
  • Change Your Crew: Surround yourself with people who uplift you not drag you down. The quote, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are is true. Find a core group of people to keep your spirits up when you are at your lowest. Find a group of people who will bring out the “best you” when you don’t feel at your best.
  • Find your passion: One of the best ways to channel positive energy into your situations, is to become involved in activities that invigorate you. Write a blog :), get involved with your community, paint, draw, whatever it is that you love just do it!
  • Take care of you: If you don’t take care of yourself, you physically won’t be able to handle whatever situation comes your way. Drink lots of water, eat balanced meals, exercise, get lots of rest
  • Finally the main thing I do to get through my situation is PRAY! Talking to God always fills me with a sense of peace that no matter how bleak the situation may seem, someway somehow, things will all work out.

Some scriptures that I have been holding super close to my heart this year are:

1 Corinthians 16:13-14, (New Living Translation) Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous.Be strong. And do everything with love.

Philippians 2:14-16 (New Living Translation)

14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. 16 Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.

Sidenote: I grew up in a predominantly Jamaican pentecostal church and my children’s ministry workers forced us to learn a song derived from this verse and I actually found it on YouTube LOL! Keep in mind this is a song i heard for the first time over 20 years ago 🙂

I refuse to let my situations control me. As bad as it may be, it could be a heck of a lot worse! Instead I choose to let God take full control of my situations and let Him work them out! Have a blessed Monday guys!

This weeks song reflection is: Give Me by Kirk Franklin( feat. Mali Music)




As black history month draws to a close let’s just take a moment to reflect and give thanks for our freedoms. Here in North America we are free to worship God without prejudice and express ourselves without persecution. Many others in various parts of the world don’t have the same freedoms that we do. Women in many parts of the world, don’t have the liberty to live freely…. I hope that one day we will all share the same freedoms we all at times take for granted.

“And when this happens, and when we allow freedom ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual:

                Free at last! Free at last!

                Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!  

I’m blessed! Not only am I physically free, but I’m free in Christ Jesus! Let Freedom Ring!!


Selma Is Now….

Selma Is Now….

Yesterday I watched the Oscars….they were super boring to me this year. I love Neil Patrick Harris, however I find his Oscar hosting performance to have fallen lackluster. It was very ” How I Met Your Mother”. Don’t get me wrong I loved that show,I just don’t know if that time of humour really resonated with the caliber of the Oscar crowd.

Let’s briefly talk about the fashion. There were some beautiful pieces, but there wasn’t anything that really blew me away. However these three dress caught my attention on the red carpet. Nothing phenomenal, but nevertheless three dresses that I would definitely wear.

Emma Stone is wearing Elie Saab.
Gwyneth Paltrow is wearing Ralph & Russo Couture
Reese Witherspoon is wearing Tom Ford.

The glitz and the glamour of the Oscars are always fun to watch, but this year all of that was overshadowed by a single performance. John Legend and Common’s rendition of their Oscar-winning Song of the Year “Glory”, moved the entire auditorium ( and myself!) to tears and leaping to their feet. Check  out the lyrics to the song and watch the performance here:

One day when the glory comes

It will be ours, it will be ours

One day when the war is won

We will be sure, we will be sure
Oh glory

Hands to the Heavens, no man, no weapon
Formed against, yes glory is destined
Every day women and men become legends
Sins that go against our skin become blessings
The movement is a rhythm to us
Freedom is like religion to us
Justice is juxtapositionin’ us
Justice for all just ain’t specific enough
One son died, his spirit is revisitin’ us
Truant livin’ livin’ in us, resistance is us
That’s why Rosa sat on the bus
That’s why we walk through Ferguson with our hands up
When it go down we woman and man up
They say, “Stay down”, and we stand up
Shots, we on the ground, the camera panned up
King pointed to the mountain top and we ran up

Now the war is not over, victory isn’t won
And we’ll fight on to the finish, then when it’s all done
We’ll cry glory, oh glory
We’ll cry glory, oh glory

Selma is now for every man, woman and child
Even Jesus got his crown in front of a crowd
They marched with the torch, we gon’ run with it now
Never look back, we done gone hundreds of miles
From dark roads he rose, to become a hero
Facin’ the league of justice, his power was the people
Enemy is lethal, a king became regal
Saw the face of Jim Crow under a bald eagle
The biggest weapon is to stay peaceful
We sing, our music is the cuts that we bleed through
Somewhere in the dream we had an epiphany
Now we right the wrongs in history
No one can win the war individually
It takes the wisdom of the elders and young people’s energy
Welcome to the story we call victory
Comin’ of the Lord, my eyes have seen the glory

I bawled like a big ol’ baby when I saw that performance and I continued to bawl when they won their Oscar and John delivered these words in their acceptance speech:

“Selma is now,” Legend began. “The struggle for justice is now. The Voting Rights Act that they fought for fifty years ago is being compromised right now in this country today. Right now the struggle for justice is real. We live in the most incarcerated country in the world. There are more black men under correctional control today than were under slavery in 1850. When people march with our song, we want to tell you: we see you, we are with you, we love you, and march on.”

He’s right.  50 years after that monumental march,people are being persecuted and targeted  everyday because of the colour of their skin. Not only the colour of their skin but their gender, religion and class or status. If we look at it, not that much has changed in 50 years… sad but true. Yes, we are no longer physical slaves, but we have now become slaves to our minds, slaves to society and slaves to ourselves.

We owe it to Dr King to take up the mantle and continue the fight for justice. Not only for ourselves, but for the generations to come. Let’s not let his ( and the work of countless others) go in vain… Selma is now! March on!