This weekend I was able to serve as a bridesmaid for one of my dearest friends. It was a day filled with love, laughter and excitement, truly a beautiful day. This weekend brought me back to a conversation I had with a friend of mine a few months back. She had recently ended her long time relationship and was coming to terms with the fact that one day she was going to have to re-enter the crazy dating world.
As we began to get deeper into conversation, she mentioned that she knew a guy that would be perfect for her , and that he has shown interest in pursuing a relationship (possibly) with her, but there was only one problem… he was her really good friend and she didn’t want to jeopardize that.
I told her I could totally understand that fear because I’ve been there and while it didn’t work out romantically for said friend and I, we were still able to remain good friends. I do understand that that’s not always the case and can relate to the skepticism of pursuing that.
But that led us into a discussion about the what if’s? She asked, “But what… ( insert a number of questions) What if that is the person you are supposed to be with? What if you are letting fear get in the way of your destiny? What if God is trying to show you something?
Being a Christian ( my friend is too) it becomes evident that the answer to our what if’s are to found in communication with Christ.
In the bible in Jeremiah 29:11-12 it states 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you
It is clear that the answer to the “what if’s” can easily be answered with some good old fashioned communication with the Father ( God) Our lives are already mapped out for us. God already knows the answers to the “what ifs” we so desperately want to know. He’s planned every aspect of our lives and knew and any given moment you would have these what if questions arise. He desperately wants you to seek him ( talk to him in prayer) and find the answers you are looking for.However, you can seek God all you want, but if you don’t actually listen to what He’s trying to say to you or show you, its pointless. Why wouldn’t you trust the person that already knows how the story ends or possibly begins? ❤
It’s extremely hard to take yourself ( and your opinions) out of the way sometimes. Sometimes we get in the way of our own success and happiness! We ask ourselves ,”What if it doesn’t work?” and like I said to my friend, “But what if it does?”
You’ll never know unless you try. You just have to step out on faith and try it!
But what if I don’t get that job?... What if you do?
What if my feelings for this person are not reciprocated?…. But what if they are?
I hope you all take the opportunity to seek God and find the answers to your what ifs! I know I have a ton of them and through the seeking process He is teaching me to be patient… ( ugh I hate waiting… lol )
I love this song by Babyface called “What If”. Enjoy and have a wonderful Monday!
What if we were wrong about each other?
What if you were really made for me?
What if we was `sposed to be together?
Would that not mean anything?
What if that was `sposed to be my house that you go home to every day?
How can you be sure that things are better?
If you can’t be sure your heart is still here with me
Still wanting me