I Choose Joy…

I Choose Joy…

Ever had one of those days where everything seems to go wrong? Today was one of those days. It seems that every time I take one step forward, something happens to push me 3 steps back.

Usually, that’s when I pull out the tub of ice cream, throw a movie on Netflix and wallow in my ” Oh woe Is me stage”.

But this year ( specifically today) I’m choosing joy over sadness and defeat.  I’m coming to terms with the realization that everything happens for a reason and sometimes you just have to deal with it.

I have been experiencing some health and personal issues ( while not life threatening) that have really been taking a toll on my physical, spiritual, mental and emotional state. I have really been down wondering “Why me?” . But why not me? I saw a quote on Instagram that really spoke to me and it reads, ” God never promised that weapons wouldn’t form, He promised that they wouldn’t prosper! That’s deep! Two snaps for whoever came up with that.

Today I was reflecting on James Chapter 1 verses 2-4 it reads :

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. (NLT)

I was reading a commentary and the author encouraged us the readers to take a radical attitude towards trials. Should we be void of emotion? Of course not we’re human! However , once the initial emotion has subsided , we should look at our trials from a fresh point of view: “It’s horrible but it could be a whole lot worse,so im going to be thankful anyway and keep the faith!” 🙂 I know, easier said than done but I’m certainly going to try. It sure beats moping around wallowing in misery!  So smile! Keep pushing! Persevere!
Check out this song by up and coming gospel artist Jordan Daniel called none other than “Perseverance”  Such a beautiful song… (Check out his debut album “Where You Are” on Itunes!)

I hope this inspires and uplifts someone out there in blog world!

Till next time




“Woosah Soph….Just Woosah….”

Does anybody ( and by anybody i mean my 80’s/early 90’s babies) Remember the episode of Family Matters ( aka “Steve Urkel as my Jamaican parents call it 🙂 ) where Carl is teaching Steve how to drive and Steve annihilates Carl’s garage door by forgetting to take the car out of reverse and driving right through it!! Keep in mind earlier in the episode, the doctor had warned Carl about his temper and subsequently his blood pressure. He encouraged Carl to repeat a calming mantra whenever he felt like he was losing it! The mantra went a little something like this:

 “3 2 1… 1 2 3  What the heck is bothering me?”

( see below for a clip of this scene) 

Well, I have been experiencing a situation at work that called for this mantra or the constant reminder to “woosah” ( woosah means to tell someone to calm down and relax… )http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Woosah=

As i may have previously mentioned, I work as an Registered Early Childhood Educator here in Ontario Canada and I work with children that have many differing abilities and cognitive understanding . It sometimes becomes difficult to stay calm when placed in a situation where you are being injured daily and feel that you are unable to help a child. Not because you don’t want to, but because you feel you  have exhausted all your options/knowledge to do so.

I have been in this situation many a time having worked in this field for just shy of 10 years ( lord I’m getting up there in age!! lol) Recently, I have felt this more often than not in one particular case. I will refrain from going to detail, sake of confidentiality  but I am feeling pretty worn down these days.

Now anyone who knows me, knows i wear my emotions all over my face and you can definitely see how I’m feeling through my body language,  My boss recently shared with me ( after I had been experiencing a particularly hard day and had gone to her to apologize for my stank attitude LOL) that she can tell when I’m having an off day and she knows to stay out of my way.

Upon hearing this, I had to stop and do some reflecting….

  1. Is the situation really that bad for me to be acting like this?
  2. What can i do to change my mindset?

The answer is no it’s not that bad! Frankly, It could be a lot worse.  I’m slowly learning to channel my anger/frustration in more positive ways.

I’m a natural hot head so my first instinct is to react. We all know with kids, when their behavior is less than desirable, more than likely they are looking for a reaction. I’ve learned to not react so much.

Take things in stride. Deep calming breaths ( I know I know super cliché) has worked for me. Stepping out of the classroom, putting my head outside for a breath of fresh air also works. Also I have never been a huge fan of classical music,  however it has a strangely calming effect on the children in my classroom, and if I find a playlist (shout out to the Songza app on Itunes!) with cellos, bases and clarinets, it calms me too! A nice cup of tea soothes the soul and every now and again a crisp glass of white wine helps too! A good facial mask to de-stress (I suggest a Oubel Ginger Mousse Mask or Queen Helene Mint Julep Mask) and a good nights sleep.

My faith definitely plays a major role in my changing mindset. Today I’m reflecting on a passage found in Romans Chapter 5 verse 3-4

We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation (New Living Translation) https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans%205:3-5&version=NLT

So just hold on help is on the way! The race ( whether it be a spiritual race, physical race or a symbolic race) is not for the swift! Hang in there soldier and I’ll try to do the same! Be encouraged!!

It always seems each blog always seems to tie into a song. So today’s song is “Encourage Yourself” By Donald Lawrence and the Tri City singers. The lyrics read:

Sometimes you have to encourage yourself.
Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test.
And no matter how you feel,
speak the word and you will be healed;
speak over yourself,
encourage yourself in the Lord.

Sometimes you have to speak the word over yourself,
the pressure is all around,
but God is present help.
The enemy created walls,
but remember giants, they do fall;
speak over yourself,
encourage yourself in the Lord.

Whatever your giant may be, its gonna come down!!

Be Blessed Xoxo

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