Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…

Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…


“very remarkable; extraordinary”

This week has been an extremely tiring week. So here it is, Saturday afternoon ,I’ve poured myself a glass of wine, popped some popcorn and have cancelled all plans for this evening! This social butterfly is clipping her wings for the night.

As I sit here in a total relaxed state of mind, my mind ran on a poem by the great Maya Angelou ( 1928-2014) “Phenomenal Woman”. It reads:

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair, 
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I think this is a poem that all young women( especially women of colour) should read and let resonate within their souls.
Even the most confident of people have days when they look in the mirror and they don’t like what they see. Or don’t think they are good enough to match up to society’s standards. Let’s be honest,speaking as a woman of colour, the media doesn’t always paint us in a great light or give us the best role models to look up to ( i.e: the fist fighting, profanity laden,promiscuous  women of shows like “Basketball Wives” or “Bad Girls Club”.)
Unfortunately, role models like this seem to be the norm these days as opposed to great women like Dr Maya Angelou. Women are striving to “get money” and “land the richest baller” instead of getting an education and becoming a woman of formidable character.
But why is that? Why is it that some of us women choose to be validated by society, instead of inherently knowing that we are good enough. I too have struggled with this. I used to ( and still do at times) find it hard to accept that I’m good enough or that I’m worthy of my accolades or even worthy of love. Whenever something good happens, it’s like I’m waiting for the shoe to drop and all of it to be taken away because I don’t feel like I’m deserving of it.
Does anybody else find it hard to receive compliments? It’s not that I don’t appreciate them… It’s almost that I’m embarrassed to accept them. Again, why is that?
When i struggle with that concept I am inclined to re-read Psalms 139 specifically verses 13-14 which read:(
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
I have to delight in the fact before I existed God had a plan for me. Little old me!  We often place of self-worth on the premise of what society thinks of us instead of looking at the bigger picture. God gave up his one and only child on a cross to die to save humanity. If that isn’t a reminder of how treasured we are then I don’t know what is!
Even on my lowest of days I have to give thanks simply because of that.
I’m reminded of a quote from the movie “The Help”  that simply states, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important”. I even encourage the kids in my class to wrap their arms around themselves and repeat this as often as they can! ( I do it too!)
Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and remind yourself You is kind. You is smart. You is important…. Phenomenal Woman… That’s You!! ❤
Shout out to all the phenomenal women in my life! Love you dearly!
This weeks song reflection:

Will your Anchor hold….

Will your Anchor hold….

Recently, I have become totally enamored with anchors. I kept seeing them everywhere. I know there has been a recent fashion resurgence of a nautical style, but this has never interested me. But recently,like I said before anchors have become my thing! I mean I bought a phone case, a ring, earrings a notebook ( basically anything with an anchor on it) I couldn’t tell you why. I’m not a sailor, not interested in anything nautical. So what’s drawing me to the anchor?

Let’s first examine what anchor is. According to Wikipedia,

An anchor is a device, normally made of metal, used to connect a vessel to the bed of a body of water to prevent the craft from drifting due to wind or current.  So basically an anchor is something designed to hold something in place, to keep something grounded.

Hmm…This year I vowed to not only look at things through my physical eyes, but spiritual eyes as well. So during my devotion,I asked God to show me what He kept bringing the anchor around me as a symbol and why all of a sudden it meant something to me.

The only “answer” I got for a while came in the answer of a song.An old hymn that I’ve that I used to hear all the time at church, but probably haven’t heard in about 10 years. The lyrics that kept repeating over and over in my head read as such:

Will your anchor hold in the storms of life,
When the clouds unfold their wings of strife?
When the strong tides lift and the cables strain,
Will your anchor drift, or firm remain?

We have an anchor that keeps the soul
Steadfast and sure while the billows roll,
Fastened to the Rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Savior’s love

Okay… I still didn’t get how this applied to me. I mean I understood the meaning of the lyrics, but why was God trying to remind me of this right now?

It wasn’t until my dad had his health issues and my family began going through some  tough emotional times and a loss of a friend exactly one week later did I truly understand what the purpose was. He was preparing me to handle the stress that was coming my way. Throughout these past two weeks, I have been so calm, and anybody who knows me knows that calm is usually not in my vocabulary!

The anchor serves as a reminder that If you are not grounded and held firmly to something, you’re liable to sink or drift away aimlessly. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, you have to be grounded to something.

Hebrews 6:19 reads,19 This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary. I look at the world as a big ocean, the people as a ship and God as an anchor. The anchor keeps the ship from being washed away in the ocean if a storm rages ie: God keeps us grounded when life seems to get us down, Now, just because we have an anchor keeping us grounded, doesn’t mean that the storm won’t rage and that we will come out of a storm completely untouched or unscathed. It simply means that despite the fact that we may be battered and bruised and sometimes damaged, we will not sink. There will always be something there preventing that. Even though we have an anchor, we have to be responsible and ensure that we are setting that anchor in place. We can’t just expect the boat to know that If we want it to stay in place, it has to drop the anchor in the water can we? No, of course not! That’s the sailors job. So in light, that’s our job. The only way you can ensure the anchor is prepared to do its job, is check on it daily. Is it in good repair? Do I need to make any changes to it? Basically , this is all just a metaphor for this: Check in with God. Are you doing everything you can to maintain your relationship with him? Are you communicating with him? Is your anchor ready for what this world may throw at it?

I know I’m doing everything I can to ensure that my anchor holds up through whatever storms come my way. It’s been working for me so far!! Get anchored to something!