Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…

Phenomenal Woman…That’s Me…

Phenomenal…

“very remarkable; extraordinary”

This week has been an extremely tiring week. So here it is, Saturday afternoon ,I’ve poured myself a glass of wine, popped some popcorn and have cancelled all plans for this evening! This social butterfly is clipping her wings for the night.

As I sit here in a total relaxed state of mind, my mind ran on a poem by the great Maya Angelou ( 1928-2014) “Phenomenal Woman”. It reads:

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair, 
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
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I think this is a poem that all young women( especially women of colour) should read and let resonate within their souls.
Even the most confident of people have days when they look in the mirror and they don’t like what they see. Or don’t think they are good enough to match up to society’s standards. Let’s be honest,speaking as a woman of colour, the media doesn’t always paint us in a great light or give us the best role models to look up to ( i.e: the fist fighting, profanity laden,promiscuous  women of shows like “Basketball Wives” or “Bad Girls Club”.)
Unfortunately, role models like this seem to be the norm these days as opposed to great women like Dr Maya Angelou. Women are striving to “get money” and “land the richest baller” instead of getting an education and becoming a woman of formidable character.
But why is that? Why is it that some of us women choose to be validated by society, instead of inherently knowing that we are good enough. I too have struggled with this. I used to ( and still do at times) find it hard to accept that I’m good enough or that I’m worthy of my accolades or even worthy of love. Whenever something good happens, it’s like I’m waiting for the shoe to drop and all of it to be taken away because I don’t feel like I’m deserving of it.
Does anybody else find it hard to receive compliments? It’s not that I don’t appreciate them… It’s almost that I’m embarrassed to accept them. Again, why is that?
When i struggle with that concept I am inclined to re-read Psalms 139 specifically verses 13-14 which read:(https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+139&version=NIV)
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
I have to delight in the fact before I existed God had a plan for me. Little old me!  We often place of self-worth on the premise of what society thinks of us instead of looking at the bigger picture. God gave up his one and only child on a cross to die to save humanity. If that isn’t a reminder of how treasured we are then I don’t know what is!
Even on my lowest of days I have to give thanks simply because of that.
I’m reminded of a quote from the movie “The Help”  that simply states, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important”. I even encourage the kids in my class to wrap their arms around themselves and repeat this as often as they can! ( I do it too!)
Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and remind yourself You is kind. You is smart. You is important…. Phenomenal Woman… That’s You!! ❤
Shout out to all the phenomenal women in my life! Love you dearly!
xoxo
This weeks song reflection:

Que Sera Sera…

Que Sera Sera…

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be….

(My mother used to sing this song to me as a little girl)

Why don’t you….( fill in the blank) How come you don’t….(insert question here) When are you going to… ( insert yet another question)

Is it just me, or has anyone else experienced people wanting  to know ( and expect you to know) every single aspect of the direction of your life? I don’t know about anyone else,but some of the plans I had for my life have not yet come to fruition and I have no explanation why.

Someone wise once told me, If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans and that is certainly true! ( to me anyway 🙂 )

I used to get offended when people would compare my life to others. Mind you, I’m a College/University educated, strong black woman making my way in this Early Childhood Education community and I’m also thriving in ministry work. So It’s not like I’m over here struggling! But still as confident as I am in myself, it would still irritate me to no end when people would put their two cents in where it wasn’t requested or required!

Until I stopped and really thought to myself, “Why are you getting mad?” People ask questions for a number of reasons. A: They generally mean well, B: They are just nosy or C:They don’t really like you and want to know your business to be harmful. We all know groups of people know that fall into each one of these categories. Unfortunate, but true. I’ve learned to focus my energy on the people who fall in category A.  You may not necessarily want to hear what they have to say, but you can tell their intentions are not meant to be offensive or harmful, but as genuine concern and anticipation of your accomplishments. ( I have A LOT of these people around me 🙂 )

Over the years I’ve learned that I am not in control of my life. As a young Christian woman I’ve truly come to understand that God is the orchestrator of my life and no matter what anybody else thinks about my life, or the direction ( or pace) It’s progressing it, my life in the hands of the Master and whatever will be will be and I am confident that even more blessings are on the way!

So…… Live! Laugh! Love!….Enjoy because life is much too short not to!

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xoxo

I Choose Joy…

I Choose Joy…

Ever had one of those days where everything seems to go wrong? Today was one of those days. It seems that every time I take one step forward, something happens to push me 3 steps back.

Usually, that’s when I pull out the tub of ice cream, throw a movie on Netflix and wallow in my ” Oh woe Is me stage”.

But this year ( specifically today) I’m choosing joy over sadness and defeat.  I’m coming to terms with the realization that everything happens for a reason and sometimes you just have to deal with it.

I have been experiencing some health and personal issues ( while not life threatening) that have really been taking a toll on my physical, spiritual, mental and emotional state. I have really been down wondering “Why me?” . But why not me? I saw a quote on Instagram that really spoke to me and it reads, ” God never promised that weapons wouldn’t form, He promised that they wouldn’t prosper! That’s deep! Two snaps for whoever came up with that.

Today I was reflecting on James Chapter 1 verses 2-4 it reads :

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. (NLT)

I was reading a commentary and the author encouraged us the readers to take a radical attitude towards trials. Should we be void of emotion? Of course not we’re human! However , once the initial emotion has subsided , we should look at our trials from a fresh point of view: “It’s horrible but it could be a whole lot worse,so im going to be thankful anyway and keep the faith!” 🙂 I know, easier said than done but I’m certainly going to try. It sure beats moping around wallowing in misery!  So smile! Keep pushing! Persevere!
Check out this song by up and coming gospel artist Jordan Daniel called none other than “Perseverance”  Such a beautiful song… (Check out his debut album “Where You Are” on Itunes!)

I hope this inspires and uplifts someone out there in blog world!

Till next time

XOXO